Post # 1
hello fellow bees,
i lived with my husband throughout our engagement and a little before that. Things were kinda hectic through that time of our relationship and things were always going up and coming down never the same every day. ever since being married i realized things calmed waaaay down. after no more decisions about the wedding, our quest for exiciting things has calmed waaay down as well-not life while we were dating…..
As a new bride and not exactly sure how this whole marriage thing works, is it normal to do the same things on a daily basis. Wake up, clean house, visit with inlaws(live right up the driveway from us), come out feed the cat(a new kitty we got as a couple hehe), watch tv, visit inlaws again and wait till husband comes home from work(with inlaws) stay with them more till about 8:00 or 8:30 leave go get rental and food go home and sleep. whoooh thats about it.
my life as a married woman though i do admit the weekends are wild sometimes 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@fiftyshadesofbride: Yes, things definitely calm down and become more day-to-day after the wedding — isn’t it GREAT?!
Post # 4
@fiftyshadesofbride: We aren’t even married yet and have experienced this. For us, that started when we moved in together: you could set a clock by our routine, but we go hard on the weekends 🙂
Post # 5
Well it’s perfectly normal to get into everyday routines. Not many people can say that life is a series of exciting, spontaneous and different events on a daily basis. And I say this as someone who does lead an interesting life but who still has ordinary routines built into it.
On reading your post you do seem to spend a lot of your time in your in-law’s house though. Do you work or do other things in your own home or get out to do stuff that’s more than just shopping?
Post # 6
Sounds like you aren’t working right now? Maybe your days would be a little more exciting if you picked up a job (even a part-time, fun job if you don’t need the money). Or you could get into a new hobby or some education.
Post # 7
@cbgg: no not working though i looked for a while but my husband doesnt want me to. i read for a hobby and do scrapbooking but sometimes it all blurs together….i should probably post in baby fever now lol.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
We have a very standard work-day routine. Work, home, dinner+housework, tv, sleep early for work the next day. The weekends we totally change it up, but it is hard to get too crazy during the week because we are tired. I find our routine comforting now.
Post # 9
This is why I can’t imagine not working… You’re lucky you are close with your in-laws (both physically and with your relationship with them) but if I were you, I would also feel bored and unfulfilled.
As much as I think there’s things I’d rather be doing than working, I think I would be quite unhappy if I had no kids and not even a part-time job. Maybe try to find something to do even 10-20 hours a week?
Also, even though DH and I both work, we are also definitely in a routine. Work, work out, eat, watch tv, then sleep, most weekdays, and then we try to do fun things together on the weekends.
Post # 10
Sometimes I like our routine and sometimes I desperately want to shake it up, lol. We’ll go out sometimes during the week but mostly on weekends now, and we will rent movies, I workout in the morning so we can have more time together at night. Play with the furkids, do normal everyday stuff, bed… Sometimes it’s boring but other times it’s like “I’ve got someone to do all this mundane stuff with now, that rocks!” Haha
Post # 11
If you are bored, try volunteering, a part-time job or a hobby.
Our days are often similar after work (make dinner, relax in front of tv, clean up), but we’ll see friends or family or do something several times a week. I volunteer at a non-profit, work full-time, in the spring also held a part-time job teaching a class, put together a panel presentation for another non-profit and worked on decluttering the house and decorating it. And I did most of the cooking/cleaning. We also traveled quite a bit.
Post # 12
3 years down and still have the same routine 😉 I guess the addition of our little girl shook it up for awhile, but now she’s on it too lol. I love having a routine, so I guess I’ve completely embraced it as part of married life! I think your routine is completely normal and healthy, as long as you’re happy!
Post # 13
yes def. happy. i love routine because i know if i miss doing anything for housework lol. being with my inlaws is always fun they are like my second paternal parents i guess. im not very close with my own. My husband and i arent going ttc for another couple of years….really thinking of going back to get RN certified. GOOD FOR A MARRIAGE TO WORK ALL THE TIME?