RSVP – Accepts v accept?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should I put
    accepts with pleasure/declines with regret : (9 votes)
    82 %
    accept with pleasure/decline with regret : (2 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    9907 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    One person Accepts/Declines two people accept/delince

    Ie Emily Accepts/Declines but Emily and Steve Accept/Decline 

    the only way to be correct would be to say Accept(s) but I don’t really think that looks great

     

    Perhaps you could say ‘will happily attend’ ‘will regrettably deline’

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    10989 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    The best way to handle this is as follows:

    ___________ will attend

    ___________ will not attend

    This format is correct for one or multiple guests.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    9907 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @asagirl:  are most of your guests invited as couples? If yes then I would go with Accepts

    Post # 8
    Member
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If your style is:

    M_____________

    Accepts …

    Declines …

    It is accepts if you go with that wording.  Even if they are responding for multiple people, it is still  one person filling out the response card.  

    Don’t sweat it.  If it bothers you, change it to “will attend.”  

    Post # 9
    Member
    10989 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    It does very sound pretty, I agree. 

    However, I just wanted to note that when I was working with the etiquette experts at the upscale stationery boutique where I ordered my engraved invitation suite, they specifically advised me that I should not use wording that attempts to attribute emotions to my guests.

    Although it’s likely that guests who attend will do so with pleasure, the fact is that some may truly do so out of obligation. Likewise, although most people who decline will do so with regret, some may not feel regret when declining. Even though response cards are neither proper nor traditional, apparently it is not considerd to be proper to ascribe feelings to those who will use them to reply.

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