Post # 1
I’ve read from invitation guides that the bride’s house should get the RSVPs, but I’ve also read that it should be sent to the persons who are hosting the wedding. My FI is paying for the whole wedding, not my family– does that mean that the invites should be addressed to him? Should the envelope reflect his name and address? It would look so much better if we print his address only! 🙂
Sorry for such a basic question, but I havent gotten back to my stationer because of this!
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Traditionally, it goes to the brides names. I think if you want to put his name on it, that would be fine.
Post # 4
My parents are splitting the cost with us, but in order to track our guest list better, we decided to have rsvps come to us. We addressed the rsvp envelope as “Justin & Stacey, and then our apartment address. Everyone knows we live together, and I figure it would be easier for us to get all the responses versus my mom who doesn’t know everyone on the guest list.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think that traditional etiquette states that RSVPs go to whoever is hosting the party. And I believe the name would typically be the bride’s name (since the bride’s parents traditionally pay for the wedding). However, you can really do it however you want nowadays! My parents are paying for most of the wedding, but we will have RSVPs come to us (with both of our names on the envelope)!
Post # 6
We’re having RSVPs coming to us at our home. It just makes things easier since my parents are half-way across the country!
Post # 7
My parents are paying for a lot of the wedding, but we are forking out a lot of money too. My mom wasn’t too pleased but I put my foot down about the RSVPs coming to our house. And i’m so glad I did because FI and I really, really enjoyed seeing if there were any little orange envelopes in our mailbox and opening them together.
Post # 8
I’m guessing from your post that you don’t live together? What about putting
Mr. Glammy & Miss Glammy
? That way you’re both on there (if you want to be) and it all goes to his address. But if you want to just get the RSVPs sent back to him then go with just his name. Basically it’s whatever you’re happiest with.
Post # 9
My parents paid for the wedding, but we planned it all, so we wanted to get all of the RSVP’s. It would have been a pain to have to ask my mom for RSVP’s all the time. I would address it to whoever is dealing with the guest list.
Post # 10
Oops, I left out one major detail.
My FI lives with his folks!!! 🙂 I like the idea of my name and his name and his address, but wouldn’t that look weird to his parents?
You’d think I wouldnt have to worry about something as simple as this! Thanks bees for the replies! 🙂
Post # 11
Haha, just a little detail 😉
I don’t think it’ll be weird at all – after all, they aren’t hosting the wedding and it’s a marriage between the two of you. I think you’ll find some RSVPs come in with both your names on it anyways – especially from friends. Maybe just give them a little heads up beforehand?
Post # 13
I think it would look fine to put both your first names and then his addresss, even if he lives with his parents. Or you can just throw etiquette to the wind and do whatever makes you happy. My parents are paying but I’m doing most of the planning, and gosh darn it I want to be able to look forward to those little envelopes in our mailbox at the end of each day! I know my mom’s not going to want to enter each RSVP into a spreadsheet anyways. We’ll have FI’s and my first names, then our addresss (we live together).
Post # 14
Thanks for the replies!! I considered doing our names and his address, but yeah, maybe I should just use my name and our house — its so much more convenient that way. 🙂
Post # 15
We had the RSVP’s sent to our house. Even though we paid for most of the wedding, we were in charge of everything so it just made sense. Most of the return envelopes said “The Happy Couple, address, city, state zip” but we had to hand write 2 or so and I just put John and Jane, address, etc.
Post # 16
I agree with putting Your name and His Name with his parents’ address.