Post # 1
Wedding invitations aren’t cheap. Plain and simple. Neither is the postage or the inner evelopes or the rsvp cards/envelopes…We all know this. We brides can admit we have all fudged on a deadline or two in our days but here is one we will never mess up again…the returning of the RSVP!! I mean, come on!! It’s an idiot proof system. I’ve already addressed and stamped it for you! All our guests have to do is show me the courtesy of checking a box and then dropping it in the mail..Why is this so difficult!!!??? And why did I have to text or call 1/4 of my guests, including some family because they didn’t send theirs in???? I mean, a text would have been much cheaper!!! Does anyone else think this is incredibly rude? Even some friends of mine that I dearly love didn’t send it back just because, “they assumed you’d know”. Right but that’s not the point…ahhhhh. Okay I’m done now.:)
Post # 3
I HEAR YOU!
Damned RSVPs. They were a killer.
Post # 4
I know exactly what you mean. I stamped, addressed this for you, and you can’t be bothered to check off a box and drop it in the mail?
Post # 5
UGGGGH! YES!!!!!!!!!! My wedding is NEXT weekend and we’re still missing RSVP’s! I’ve uttered MANY 4-letter-words over these things. To top it all off our postman has delivered MULTIPLE rsvp’s to the wrong addresses–the streets don’t even SOUND the same. We’re talking street names like: 5675 Montezuma Court vs. 1823 Laguna St. Are those SO similar that you can’t figure out the difference?! And we’ve lived here almost 3 years–with the same postman! Grrrrrrr.
Stepping off soapbox.
Post # 6
I feel so bad for all of the people that talk about their RSVP’s. I just put my invites in the mail today and I am keeping my fingers crossed that most people will send them back on their own. However, the more I read these I keep thinking I am going to end up with 10% of them returned. UGH NIGHTMARES
Post # 7
We go to my daughter’s wedding this weekend- 1/1/11, and I still joke with my husband about whether we got any rsvps in the mail today. Our caterer’s date is 1/8 and she is stressing out about her own lack of rsvps- I kept two open tables, 16 folks for two 8 tops… so whoever did not rsvp gets to sit randomly- karma. We sent out 100+ and got back 2/3rds of the cards.
Post # 8
Yeah, I don’t get it. My FI decided to play hardball and told his stragglers that they had until the end of the week to respond and if they didn’t, do not come because there will be no food or seat for them. Wow. I’m still not sure if he meant it.
Post # 9
Oh yeah, and I only received 50% of my RSVP postcards back. The other 50% had to be chased or they RSVP’d verbally.
Post # 10
Well- just a note on who actually showed up from the rsvps- mostly everyone, except for some spouses who ended up having to take care of family business. I’d say that about 10 expected folks did not show- and that about 5 unexpected folks did. I overbooked the caterer by about 18 people, but that gave a place for dj’s, photogs and video folks to sit and have something to eat. I was told there was a child running around and babies there, but I did not see them- the parents either split taking them out of the reception or went home early. We had implied a no children policy but had not imposed one due to the fact that several of the B&G’s friends said they could not find a babysitter that day. The open seating tables worked out very well. Having place cards worked very well. People shifted seats at will as people left- most folks waited after dinner until the cake was cut. People actually danced!!! Yay. We had an open bar and had tons of stuff untouched. We still had a large group around 7pm when we lined up for the sending off.
Post # 11
OMG i know!! i even had a link to our wedding website so they could rsvp on there and still almost 60% didn’t return RSVPs oh well guess they won’t get fed if they show up lol
Post # 12
i sympathize. i think it might be even harder to get RSVPs when you are doing it through your wedding website. although u think it would be easier. nope. people can’t be bothered or assume you know!