(Closed) RSVP Anxiety! Help!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People wait until the last possible second to send RSVPs annoying but true. I wouldn’t call until after the deadline.

Post # 4
Member
17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Same boat! My RSVP deadline is January 5, we’ve had 55 responses to the 180 we sent out! I’m freaking out! 

I want to start calling but I’m going to wait until after the 5th. I’m hoping just with the holidays people but it on the back burner. 

Post # 5
Member
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

With the holidays and everything, most people would have just put it to one side and forgotten about it. After the 10th, feel free to go nuts calling everyone. In the meantime, you could maybe try a facebook status (aimed only so those invited to the wedding can read it) saying something like “Hey everyone, only a week left for RSVPs to our wedding – make sure you let us know!” Or even just text some of the guests “Hey, so-and-so, hope you had a great Christmas! We hope we can catch up with you at the wedding – let us know if you can make it!”

Post # 6
Member
6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I just looked into my crystal ball real quick and it told me that you should expect a ton of cards in the mail postmarked the 10th

Post # 7
Member
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know a few people who need to wait untilt he new calendar year to schedule vacations and days off from work. Also with the holidays, many  people are traveling and just getting back into the swing of things now. I wouldn’t worry too much!

Post # 11
Member
13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m having the same issue! My wedding is less than a month away and I still haven’t received all the RSVP! FI and I decided that we can’t put together a dinner seating chart cause we are so confused with who is and who isn’t showing up and we don’t want to leave any names out of the place cards. We are now doing open seating due to this situation!

Post # 12
Member
17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

This really is the worst!  You spend days picking invitations, addressing them, putting them together, and then you pay a lot of money to have them printed and money for stamps…

….and then you spend another day tracking people down and calling people because no one can bother to put their RSVPs back in the mail.  It’s not that hard!  I gave you a preaddressed envelope and a stamp!  I feel like it’s just so rude and inconsiderate, especially when you need numbers to give to the venue, caterers, etc.  

Do you think it’s just a general lack of etiquette in today’s society?  Or what’s the deal?!

Post # 13
Member
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I sent out an email a couple of days after our deadline, something like this-

“Hi! Just wanted to follow up on your RSVP for our DATE wedding. We know how easy it is for time to slip away, but we need to give our caterer our final head count. If we don’t hear back from you by DATE, we’ll have to mark you as a no. Hope you’ll be able to join us in celebrating the big day.”

REALLY helped kick people into gear!

Post # 14
Member
8163 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d give it a week after the deadline and then start calling/emailing people. It sucks!

Post # 15
Member
17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@rebwana:  that’s the perfect response, thanks!  

The topic ‘RSVP Anxiety! Help!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors