Post # 1
I have to say I’m feeling really down about the RSVP responses from my family!! FI has family flying in from the west coast (and lots of them!) for the wedding but my side is slowing going from we absolutely will come (from the east coast) to…it’s too expensive, sorry! I’ve had two of those this morning and I’m definitely feeling pretty bad now 🙁 Everybody was excited and kept saying it would be like a family reunion but my aunt and uncle, my first cousins, my mom’s first cousins, and my dad’s family are almost entirely backing out. Just had to let that out, definitely not feeling the love today 🙁
Post # 3
It is very expensive to travel right now. People may WANT to be there, but financially unable. Not everyone plans out their finances like we’d want them too. FH’s family has slowly been backing out too (they would need to fly to the wedding). He’s fine and says “whoever is supposed to be there, will be”. I’ll extend the same thoughts to you.
Post # 4
@mrskmk: Sending you some hugs. I feel a bit like this at the moment too! Most of our guests have to travel to our wedding, but FI friends and family are traveling further than mine. All of them seem keen to come, but my side is a bit slower to commit and quicker to drop out. I do understand though as I am not able to make everyones wedding I am invited to this year either because of the travel and expensive. Still, it feels crappy
Post # 5
thanks ladies! you’re right whoever is supposed to be there will be, still a definite bummer though since I really wanted to share this day with my family!
Post # 7
I have a lot of people not coming. My best friend from HS just called to say she can’t make it -after having made a huge deal about how she wouldn’t miss it for anything. I think people really want to, and they think nothing could keep them away (so they say so), but then work comes up or travel’s too expensive. I understand it, but I, too, am completely bummed at the people not coming.
Worse for my FI, whose mother’s family are all too busy to attend (his mom died years ago, and he’ll have not a single representative of his mother’s family at his wedding. I am so mad at them right now!). Some of them just can’t be bothered. Others have a genuine excuse. But it sucks all around.
Post # 8
I know how you feel. Just remember that the ones who matter will really want to be there and do everything they can to do so.
Post # 9
I understand how you’re feeling. My family and FI’s family are scattered around the country. For about 60% of them, it will be a 12 hour drive to our wedding. I know a lot of them will not make the trip. It sucks, but there’s nothing I can do about it. The ones who really love us will be there.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry. I’m afraid this is going to happen to me too.