(Closed) RSVP by email

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it ok for guest to RSVP by Email
    Email RSVP : (20 votes)
    47 %
    Phone RSVP : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Post RSVP : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Include all three and let the guest decide : (19 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @ashron:  How internet savvy are your guests?

    If they are all active on e-mail, etc and e-mail RSVP would probably be ok.

    Some wedding websites will also allow your guests to RSVP on the site.

    If you have some older or not so computer-literate guests, then a post RSVP might be better.

    Post # 5
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    We did that and it worked great – you can either use your wedding website, create a new wedding-related email, or just use a current email address (which I did). I also just used my own phone number. 

    “Please RSVP by x date by calling [email protected] or calling 1-234-567-9800″

    Post # 6
    10 posts
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I did both email and phone number. Our wording was:

    The favour of a reply is requested on or before April 28, 2012

    Please call xxx.xxx.xxxx or email …


    Post # 7
    1725 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I hope this will work out okay, but I ordered cards from Vistaprint that have an email address, my cell number, and the wedding website to RSVP

    Post # 8
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We are doing an online RSVP through our wedding website on the Knot. So far it’s working well, even the grandparents have all figured it out!

    Post # 9
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    It’s fine as long as it matches the formality level of your wedding.  If you are having a fancy ball room, white tie wedding, I’d say mailing is more appropriate.  But if you are having a semi-formal banquet hall wedding, it is fine.



    Post # 10
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Our wedding is informal.  We intend to instruct guests to either RSVP online (at the wedding site) or call one of us. Plus we are having buffet style, so we don’t really need the return card for meal option. 🙂

    Honestly the relatives usually just notify our parents if they come or not, it’s no point giving them return card anyway. 

    I think it will work out for us fine (hopefully!)

    Post # 11
    23636 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would highly suggest an online RSVP on a website. Its a great idea to save the postage and extra RSVP card!

    Post # 12
    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m giving guests the option of phone or email RSVP. The older guests would probably prefer calling, and the younger ones emailing. I set up a special account to handle the RSVPs so they don’t clutter my inbox (ie [email protected]). I agree, postage is expensive and I don’t mind if people get offended over it. Most probably won’t.

    Post # 14
    28 posts
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I am doing both email and phone on mine

    Post # 15
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    @ashron:  For that matter, how etiquette-savvy are your guests?

    A typical formal invitation (weddings tend to be non-typical because so many of them are hosted and attended by people who are unfamiliar with formal entertaining) simply has “R.s.v.p.” or “The favour of a reply is requested” in the lower right corner. People are supposed to write or phone or email their reply, without the need for any separate “RSVP card”.

    Actually, people are supposed to reply in the manner that the invitation was extended — by post, if the invitation was maile, by phone if it was phoned, by email if it was emailed. If you want to imply phone or email options, you write your phone number and/or email address in small print under the R.s.v.p. letters in the lower right corner on the invitation itself. You don’t need to write your address, because it is presumably engraved on the flap of the envelope.

    As a gracious (smart) hostess, you are supposed to accept their R.s.v.p. in whatever manner they send it, even by carrier pigeon or Morse code. At least they are sending it.

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