Post # 1
We received an invitation for a wedding and won’t be able to make it. Only problem is there’s no option for not attending on the RSVP card. Should I assume they only want to hear back if the answer is yes and not send anything back to them or send the card back and add an option for no?
Post # 3
I’d send it back with “not able to attend” on it. They may have accidentally left the option off (oops)! If they expected no’s to not send it back then they’ll just know you’re a no for sure.
Post # 4
I would just write a little “sorry we can’t make it” or something, that way they know for sure!
Post # 5
lol, maybe they were hoping no one would say no 🙂
I agree with @SBourgeous:; just writing in your regrets and sending it back to them would be a nice gesture, so they can get a good count for the caterer and favors, if they are having them.
Post # 6
Sounds good, it’d be nice to write her a little note anyways. I was just a bit worried this was some new trend I was unaware of and she’d assume that every RSVP she got back was a yes or cause some sort of confusion.
Post # 7
Yea, I agree that you should just send it back with your own line that says, “Sorry we can’t make it” or something along those lines. That way she knows for sure you can’t come.
Post # 8
I would do the same thing I do anyway: throw away the pre-printed form, take out my personal informal notes, and write a proper response. The proper form to express that you won’t be attending is:
Miss Iam Troubled
regrets to decline the kind invitation of
to the wedding of her daughter Bride
on (date & time)
due to a prior commitment.
“A prior commitment”, or “inability to travel” are the two generic acceptable reasons for declining an invitation. The prior commitment might be a commitment to staying home paring my nails, and the inability to travel might be caused by unwillingness to spend ten bucks for gas, but we don’t go into that level of detail in formal correspondence.
Post # 9
I got some fun/sweet messages on our RSVP cards and I’m sure they just forgot to put a “no” option, so I’m all for putting “I’m sorry we won’t be able to attend”. We even got some with fun little doodles, etc