Post # 1
My wonderful mother has been chatting with her friends and has decided that we “need” to have a mail-able response card. Initially FH and I were going to include a Hotel/RSVP info card that told guests to either call his number (provided) to respond or to do so on our website (which has a handy application to do so). Adding another postcard and postage would put our budget well over what we allotted for invitations (my parents are paying for the wedding but I am trying very hard to stay in budget especially since they are also helping fund my field school this summer).
She said to investigate what Ms. Manners says and to think about it (but heavily suggested we go with her idea) however, I’m having difficulty locating any thoughts on it.
Post # 3
You have a phone number on there as well as an online option, I think that’s plenty and I don’t see any problem not having a mail-in option.
Post # 4
We’re doing an email RSVP option – but we’ve considered including RSVP cards for a couple of people who aren’t so tech-savvy. But we’re making our own invites so it’ll be a little easier…
Post # 5
Mailable is the traditional route. But I think the phone and email/website options is plenty. It seems like a useless expense to me, especially since it’s actually more difficult for all people involved.
Post # 6
If you go with Ms. Manners you’ll be instructed not to include anything as it is proper ettiquite for guests to send a hand written letter of congratulations and noting whether they’ll be able to attend or not.
I think what you’ve got is fine. I had a friend that only offered the website as the RSVP option. For the few guests that were not technically savvy (grandparents) they included a mailable RSVP.
Post # 7
We did the phone number and website option. As a comparsion, my sister (also recently married) went with the traditional mail back RSVP. She had to chase 15-20 people for their RSVPs.
We did not have to chase anyone. I was pretty shocked! I had to eat my words as well, because I really wanted to do mail back RSVPs and my DH just didn’t see the point. My mom (who was on my side for the argument) soon changed her tune. lol
I think that by offering the phone number and the website option, you’re fine.
Post # 8
Regardless of etiquette, we were considering ONLY having online rsvp to save on cost and make it convenient. However, I think it’s good to go the route of postcards to prevent any intentional or nonintential guest add-on’s – as in using the phrase “We have reserved 3 seats in your honor” etc.
Post # 9
We’re doing an online RSVP on our wedding website and mail in postcards. We’re inviting some people that are not computer savvy 🙂
Post # 10
I am doing website RSVP, and a card, but I am not pre-paying for postage since so few people are likely to use that method of responding. We are also putting our phone number on our map insert, so if someone can’t manage either they can call, even though it’s not phone RSVP.