Post # 1
Forgive me if this shows up twice, I thought I posted it but it’s not showing up. 🙁
I was just wondering what you ladies are doing for RSVP cards or what your thoughts are on RSVP-ing online to a specific wedding e-mail. I’ve seen more and more people my age (early 20s) doing it (to save money, I’m sure) and I was shocked when my mom was really pushing for it. I don’t really have a preference either way– I’m just uncertain whether it’s an inconvenience for people who might not be that tech-savvy? Is it OK to say reply to e-mail or call with reply? or is that tacky? I can see how it’d save money, but I don’t want to make it inconvenient for our guests or seem tacky.
I’d appreciate your thoughts!!
Post # 3
We included a card instructing guests to RSVP through our weddingwire site, which also got them to check the site (and the all info there) out. We also included phone numbers for the non-internet types. So far we’ve gotten a great response.
Post # 4
I think it’s extremely tacky to not have a stamped and addressed response card. I think that you could give the option of responding online… but then that’s a waste of a stamp.
Post # 5
I like the old fashioned way of snail mail. I love getting mail though so it’s totally selfish 😉 I think online RSVP is way more convenient but less personal in a way. Plus older guests may not be so technologically savvy or may not have internet access.
Post # 6
@Miss Pizelle I’m glad I didn’t invite you to my extremely tacky wedding!
I’m also glad I didn’t waste tons of money on stamps, enevelopes and cards that half the guests won’t bother returning.
Post # 7
I’m torn because I want to see them come in the mail. But I’m sure we’ll encourage guests to respond by e-mail/website/phone. My sister included a card instructing guests to RSVP that way but still a few guests put it in an envelope and sent it back snail mail. The vast majority went to the website.
Post # 8
We included a RSVP card and on it we put “you may also respond on our website at …” We didn’t stamp the return envelope because we wanted people to RSVP online, so they could get additonal info, etc. We figured most people understood how it worked because it was the only option to RSVP for our engagement party. However, most people are returning the RSVP in the mail and I know they are thinking we are cheap because we didn’t put a stamp on the envelope. I want to tell all of them, go online and save your stamp!!! 🙂
Post # 9
I didnt think the way we did ours was tacky. We did a seperate card included in the invite that had our email address and phone numbers as there are are over 100 invitations and I would have to pay postage to send the invitation out and then another 100 postage stamps for the envelopes? In our situation it is not feasable.
We included the email fo those technology savy, and the phone for those people who are not technology minded for them to give us a call. 🙂
Post # 10
I think nowadays, you can do it either way. Just expect your older guests (grandparents, great aunts/uncles) to make a phone call instead of RSVPing online. We used regular RSVP cards and included a SASE with each invitation.
Post # 11
We went completely against any “etiquette” and are 100% online—we are using a Google form that is embedded in our wedding website and feeds directly back to a Google spreadsheet that everyone who needs to (me, FI, FMIL for rehearsal dinner) can access online. Our invites say “please respond by xxx at website.com” in italics at the bottom. (We bought our own domain—very inexpensive—in order to have a short-and-sweet URL, though.) Major reasons were, in this order: minimizing wedding footprint with less paper/mail—we’re trying to keep it green and local, so went with local shops and printers for what we did print and put other things online; controlling costs (paper and postage); and making it as simple as possible to manage/monitor.
We designed the site ourselves and spent quite a lot of time making it pretty personal and comprehensive, and so far have gotten very positive feedback on it. (We set it all up before sending email STDs and got a number of RSVPs at that point, too, which was a nice bonus.) However, invites just went out this week, so I can update on whether we run into any problems in a few weeks’ time. We also have a pretty tech-savvy family, and doublechecked on the few older relatives after we sent STDs to make sure they could find the website and didn’t have trouble navigating it. We were planning to include a phone number for those borderline tech-savvy people, but in the end discovered they had fewer issues than we’d anticipated. (My 93-year-old grandmother, who is paying for the wedding cake as her gift to us, not only found our site no problem, but has taken to reading wedding blogs looking for good pictures of cakes and cupcakes!)
The only downside to this approach thus far has been not having the fun of opening the mailbox for RSVPs—-but instead I get an email at the end of each day telling me who RSVPed that day. Not quite as good, but hey. Our whole wedding is pretty informal/alternative anyway, though, so I imagine with a much more formal affair, you might want to follow more formal etiquette.
Post # 12
That last two wedding invites I’ve received have been RSVP online only. I’m PRETTY sure we’re going to do the SASE RSVP. I guess I just feel like this is the only time I’m going to get a ton of RSVPs in the mail lol! And it just feels more ‘formal’ to me, even though I think online is ‘acceptable’.
Post # 13
My daughter did the SASE RSVP as well as an online RSVP. So far, only 2 responded online, 15 by mail.
Post # 14
I think you should present it as an option and include an RSVP card/reminder to call card. I just think whether or not it’s takcy, not tacky, internet savvy vs not there yet, people just need options. Some people no matter if you put a stamp on the card will still not mail it and some are better at picking up a phone. I think either way you might still have to track some people down just because people forget or just get lazy. I also think that maybe it all depends on the type of wedding you are having. Informal, very casual, very lowkey and modern…sure, I could see
Personally, I just think that the RSVP card is more traditional and what I plan on doing and I am 23. I would never present the internet thing as my RSVP, especially not with the type of event we are throwing. My wedding is 200 guest and very formal, I don’t think it would be appropriate if we did an internet only option. Just my opinion!
Maybe you can do your STDs as an email invite.
Post # 15
We are sending an invite with RSVP instructions on how to do so online. We are doing this for several reasons, not only does it save on paper and stamps, but it also gives everyone a permenant way to view things about the upcomming event incase an invite gets lost. (I have personally lost an invite to a wedding and she also had a website that came in very handy for questions I would have felt a bit embarrased and uncomfortable asking my friend) Not to mention the embarrasment of loosing the invite in the first place. I had this site created for me but it is in its infancy and still does not have all the information on it we would like… But it gives you an idea of how we are doing ours. PLUS, when they RSVP it automatically comes to the email adress I have desiganted for this!!!!
Post # 16
haha, i Just saw that I responded to this 11 months ago! We did include stamped envelopes/RSVP cards with our invite. Expensive, but I’m excited to receive the responses.
We also sent a chunk of invitations to Europe for a second reception that we will be hosting there. For this one we just included an email address and phone number – it starts getting riducuous to include international return postage, especially after it cost so much to send invitations overseas.