rsvp card recieved back-not sure how to take this

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Maybe you should go back to them and ask for clarification?

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

jordan1027:  I would call and say hi! I got your RSVP card and unfortunately a “maybe” doesn’t help my headcount/caterer situation. Do you think you’ll be able to make it? It the mean time I’ll need to mark you as a no- but if you are able to commit by ____ (RSVP date) let me know! Would love to celebrate with you. 

 

People are so dumb! Who bothers to send back a maybe lol

Post # 4
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Busy bee

That is super annoying.  I would have whoever is closest to them – you, your FI, or perhaps one of your parents – call and ask if they will know by Sept 1, and if not when, since you need to get a firm number back to your caterer and arrange for them to have a seat (or not).

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yeah, I would definitely ask.

That’s like ours, I specifically say to write the names next to each entree of choice so I know when I make out the name cards. Some have just put numbers. At least if it’s 2, I know… but if they put 1 on one line, and another 1 on the other – I’m just going to guess and they can switch foods if I got it wrong!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You mean your wedding isn’t a facebook event?!?!? :p

Like others have said, have someone (you, fiance, parent) call and ask for clarification. Make sure to let them know (esp. if leaving a vm) that you will mark them as No if you don’t have a definite Yes by your RSVP date.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate

jordan1027:   RSVPs have been the single most frustrating part of this whole wedding planning. Like you don’t have enough to do without hunting down potential guests to find out of they want to come.

The only thing you can probably do is get in contact with these people and tell them you need a solid yes or no. Not a maybe, that wasn’t an option on the card tell them.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would call just to clarify, people should know by now plates are not cheap!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

jordan1027:  Maybe there’s something really big in their life that is slated to be potentially at the same time, so they won’t know until the last minute? (surgery, adoption, etc.)

It may be that they really want to commit yes, but they are unable to give you a solid answer.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Additional comment… I know this isn’t the wedding, but my sister sent out Save the Dates for my bachelorette party next weekend back after Memorial Day and one of my friends can’t come now cos she took a job in a different city and they’re moving that weekend now.

It stinks, but not much you can do.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

jordan1027:  why do they make brides call them and hunt down wth they mean by maybe? So much drama esp from people who invited themselves . Why don’t they just write in what the deal,is or call you in advance of sending the RSVP so you can tell them how you want to handle this issue? 

 

Edited to fix ipad auto correct of bride to bird. seriously, ipad? 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  BalletParker.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

jordan1027:  We also had a maybe, which ended up being a no with clarification. So strange!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Ugh. I’m not looking forward to RSVPs for reasons like this one. A wedding isn’t just some housewarming party. I understand if you’re having a casual backyard, come one come all, type event. But, even then, why do people feel so entitled that they will provide you with a “maybe” without any type of serious explanation? Wedding invites really bring out the crazy in people.

Sorry OP, no advice to you. Just having some second hand anxiety for you. 😉

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