Post # 1
Is it tacky to have boxes to check that say whether you’re coming to the ceremony, the reception, or both. We have a lot of people from church who we don’t believe will come to the reception & we don’t want to over order on food and drinks, but we’re not sure how to distinguish the guests. Help!!
Post # 3
I would have two columns:
O We will be there! O We’ll be there!
O Can’t make it.. O Can’t make it..
And then for the reception if you need to make food choices for the menu, just have it below both options.
I don’t think it’s tacky. It’ll make people think twice, but since people are telling you they may come to either/or, I think it’s justified.
Post # 4
shoot..WB didn’t keep my formatting…but I hope you get that I was trying to make two columns..
Post # 5
Why would you need to know if people are coming to the church? When people RSVP yes to the wedding that means they are coming to the reception as people know its a head count for dinner.
However if you do want to know numbers for the church I don’t think its tacky to ask for both.
Post # 6
@PuntaCanaBride: I don’t think she necessarily needs to know how many people are coming to the church. She just wants to differentiate between the people who are only coming to the church versus the ones who are coming to the church and reception.
That being the case, I don’t think it’s tacky to include this information on the reply card. Then you will know for sure who intends to be at the reception and thus how many people to pay for. You can do as napabridekelsey suggests or…
_____ will be attending the ceremony only
_____ will be attending both the ceremony and reception
_____ declines with regret
I think giving people the option of doing reception only, may make some believe the ceremony is optional and I wouldn’t want a lot of people thinking it was okay to skip my ceremony but still come to the reception.
Post # 7
@PuntaCanaBride: I definitely don’t need to know who’s going to be at the church, but I don’t think that everyone assumes to RSVP “no” if they plan to come ceremony only. Like vabride2011 said, I’m just trying to seperate those who will be ceremony only.
@vabride2011: It’s a good point about making the ceremony seem optional. I definitely want to avoid that. I wanted to have my RSVP card be light-hearted anyways.
I’m attaching a picture of what my original RSVP card was going to look like. Any ideas how I could keep it light-hearted, but add that.. or should I just switch it up completely.
Post # 8
@thefuturemrs.o: maybe an options for ‘will be there to catch the vows but won’t be partying afterwards’??
I think it might be a lot of choices. I’d probably get confused, but you know your guests better. lol
Post # 9
I like vabride’s suggestion! But you might want it more straight forward. I loved this idea and did do it for mine, but many of my older guests did not quite understand. Also since you want further definition (ceremony only vs both) I might do what napabride suggested.
As a side note, if you do use the one you already prepared ‘enthusiastically’ decline is spelled incorrectly. (I wrote it correctly) Would hate for that to get sent out with a typo!
Post # 10
I dont think thats tacky at all.You have to know!
Post # 11
@vabride2011: I think that’s a great idea. I’m thinking about removing the last one because I don’t want to offend the older guests. Maybe I’ll replace it with “will be there for the vows, but not the party” or something.
@niromale9949: You know, I’ve looked at this 6,000 times and you’d think I’d catch something that obvious! This is why I love Weddingbee! Thanks 🙂
@organizedbride11: Overall it seems like I was just being paranoid haha it’s going to be an option on the RSVP.. Just have to figure out how to incorporate it now!