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You could consider doing an RSVP postcard because the postage would be cheaper and you can get good deals at vistaprint and elsewhere.
Some people do e-mail RSVPs or on their wedding Web site, but I don't see that working well with older guests, guests that aren't up with technology, etc. I guess you'd have to look at your guest list and see if you think they would utilize an online RSVP option well.
Whatever you do, I would recommend against just sending the invitation without any explanation. I don't think just expecting people to call or e-mail will work well.
According to the etiquette column in Modern Bride, it is inappropriate to NOT include a stamp. Plus, it will give people a reason to forget to send the RSVP in or send it in late.
Hope that helps!
I think you should include a stamp. Granted, I sent out stamps and still some guests didn't reply, or else replied via phone. Grr!
I have been invited to one wedding where the bride didn't include return postage and instead requested we reply via the website. I didn't care for it.
I wouldn't do it. I think it's hard enough for people to actually send back RSVPs as it is! Plus, with online banking and bill-pay it's probably fairly common that people don't even have stamps in the house. I know that whenever I really need a stamp I just don't seem to have any. I say save yourself the headache of having to call all those people who don't reply, or who just plop it in the mailbox assuming it has a stamp (in which case you should have the return address printed on the evelope!)
If you are sending out RSVP cards then I think you should address and stamp them. If you are looking to not have them guest could RSVP to a wedding website or email account.
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It would be inappropriate to not include a stamp. It may seem cheap and a great way to cut costs, but opt for a different way to cut costs. Many of your guests will either be confused or may not RSVP all together because you did not include a stamp.
I agree with the others, this is not a place to save money. You won't get your cards back. Is it really worth the stress to save a few bucks?
If you have RSVP cards you absolutely should include a stamp. Others may not even realize and just plop in the mail without stamping. Guests may think "Wow, they can't even spring $50 for stamps?" I hate the word "tacky" so instead I'd say "inconsiderate".
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i did 2 rsvp, one for the older guest with our address with postage and for our friends i put an email address for them to rsvp so no postage
I think you should add the stamps. No matter what your wedding budget is, $48 is not going to affect it that much in the grand scheme of things. It would leave a bad taste in my mouth if I got an RSVP without postage. As GaBGal said, it's inconsiderate.
I agree, some guests may not notice and try to send it, and it is hard enough to get guests to send them in anyway! No stamp might be enough for it to get thrown into a pile of to do-s and they may miss the date. Especially with postage going up recently!
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If you're really cramped for cost, consider having an online RSVP function on your wedding website. Then you don't need to include postage because your RSVP card will simply say "please RSVP by [date] on [website]" (and, if they don't have access to Internet, you could include your phone number as well).
Otherwise, yes, you do have to include postage. Sucks, I know, but it's true.
It's not that much more money, even for 100 invitations. Make it a postcard if you're trying to save some cash, but if you don't include a stamp, you won't get most of your RSVPs back. Pick your poison, I guess.
We did postcards and saved that way. It's safe to say that anything that takes more than 1 or 2 clicks on the computer or more than one step to mail isn't going to happen. Life is complicated, make it a little easier for these people!
Think how much you make an hour, and then envision all the hours you're going to have to spend tracking RSVPs down. You won't save a dime by not stamping them.
Thanks for all the advice! I was thinking that was probably the case, but I thought I'd ask. I do like the idea of going with a postcard that they can just fill out in stick in the mailbox as is. And it wouldn't take too much adjusting to turn my RSVP card into a postcard.
Thanks!
I agree with the others. It isn't really "tacky" but including a self addressed and stamped envelope is considerate. If you are going the stamp route, print out labels for the your address. It speeds up the process entirely. I know what you mean about the expense, as I am sending out 120 invites.
Anyway, I would see about the post cards it may just save you some dough. Good luck!
Yeah, look into postcards because I gaurantee a few months from now you'll be kicking yourself when the RSVP cards are late coming back, thinking that maybe if you had stamped and addressed them this wouldn't have happened!
Just be forewarned that there are some strict guidelines that the post office has for the size and thickness of postcards. Make sure you know the correct size that you need to make everything and take a sample to the post office to make sure it meets their guidelines before sending them to all of your guests!
I actually don't think its tacky. It's just not prudent considering how hard it will be to get guests to actually rsvp.
I agree with having a postcard. You don't have to pay the cost of the envelope (AND printing on the envelope) and the postage is cheaper. I have done RSVP postcards in the past and they look great. I would definitely advise against no postage at all, though - many of your guests will put going to the post office on the back burner, and then the entire RSVP card was a waste of money to begin with!
I completely think it is tacky. You dont send invitations out to a wedding and not include a stamp on the rsvp. It's tacky and inappropriate. find a another way to cut some costs, or do like the other bees said and send postcard rsvp's.
I did a postcard and the postage was cheaper. But we still have not gotten many rsvps in and the deadline is tomorrow.
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I'm working on my invitations right now and I was wondering....is it tacky/inappropriate to send an RSVP card without including postage and a self-addressed stamped envelope? It would add a lot of extra cost to include those (we have about 100 invitations going out). Is it okay to leave that out? If not, are there alternatives for RSVPs?
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