Post # 1
I’m working on my invitations right now and I was wondering….is it tacky/inappropriate to send an RSVP card without including postage and a self-addressed stamped envelope? It would add a lot of extra cost to include those (we have about 100 invitations going out). Is it okay to leave that out? If not, are there alternatives for RSVPs?
Post # 3
You could consider doing an RSVP postcard because the postage would be cheaper and you can get good deals at vistaprint and elsewhere.
Some people do e-mail RSVPs or on their wedding Web site, but I don’t see that working well with older guests, guests that aren’t up with technology, etc. I guess you’d have to look at your guest list and see if you think they would utilize an online RSVP option well.
Whatever you do, I would recommend against just sending the invitation without any explanation. I don’t think just expecting people to call or e-mail will work well.
Post # 4
According to the etiquette column in Modern Bride, it is inappropriate to NOT include a stamp. Plus, it will give people a reason to forget to send the RSVP in or send it in late.
Hope that helps!
Post # 5
I think you should include a stamp. Granted, I sent out stamps and still some guests didn’t reply, or else replied via phone. Grr!
I have been invited to one wedding where the bride didn’t include return postage and instead requested we reply via the website. I didn’t care for it.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do it. I think it’s hard enough for people to actually send back RSVPs as it is! Plus, with online banking and bill-pay it’s probably fairly common that people don’t even have stamps in the house. I know that whenever I really need a stamp I just don’t seem to have any. I say save yourself the headache of having to call all those people who don’t reply, or who just plop it in the mailbox assuming it has a stamp (in which case you should have the return address printed on the evelope!)
Post # 7
If you are sending out RSVP cards then I think you should address and stamp them. If you are looking to not have them guest could RSVP to a wedding website or email account.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington
It would be inappropriate to not include a stamp. It may seem cheap and a great way to cut costs, but opt for a different way to cut costs. Many of your guests will either be confused or may not RSVP all together because you did not include a stamp.
Post # 9
I agree with the others, this is not a place to save money. You won’t get your cards back. Is it really worth the stress to save a few bucks?
Post # 10
If you have RSVP cards you absolutely should include a stamp. Others may not even realize and just plop in the mail without stamping. Guests may think "Wow, they can’t even spring $50 for stamps?" I hate the word "tacky" so instead I’d say "inconsiderate".
Post # 11
i did 2 rsvp, one for the older guest with our address with postage and for our friends i put an email address for them to rsvp so no postage
Post # 12
I think you should add the stamps. No matter what your wedding budget is, $48 is not going to affect it that much in the grand scheme of things. It would leave a bad taste in my mouth if I got an RSVP without postage. As GaBGal said, it’s inconsiderate.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2009 - University of Michigan Union
I agree, some guests may not notice and try to send it, and it is hard enough to get guests to send them in anyway! No stamp might be enough for it to get thrown into a pile of to do-s and they may miss the date. Especially with postage going up recently!
Post # 14
If you’re really cramped for cost, consider having an online RSVP function on your wedding website. Then you don’t need to include postage because your RSVP card will simply say "please RSVP by [date] on [website]" (and, if they don’t have access to Internet, you could include your phone number as well).
Otherwise, yes, you do have to include postage. Sucks, I know, but it’s true.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
It’s not that much more money, even for 100 invitations. Make it a postcard if you’re trying to save some cash, but if you don’t include a stamp, you won’t get most of your RSVPs back. Pick your poison, I guess.
Post # 16
We did postcards and saved that way. It’s safe to say that anything that takes more than 1 or 2 clicks on the computer or more than one step to mail isn’t going to happen. Life is complicated, make it a little easier for these people!
Think how much you make an hour, and then envision all the hours you’re going to have to spend tracking RSVPs down. You won’t save a dime by not stamping them.