Post # 1
So a large majority of my family and friends did not RSVP to my wedding. The very very very important people did RSVP. I’m of the opinion that I shouldn’t have to go hunting people down to find out if they’re actually coming. Is that wrong of me?
Post # 3
You really shouldn’t have to… but.. you may have to! Sometimes people put things to the side with intentions of dealing with them later, and they just never do. I would email or call whoever you can – would really hate for those folks to show up for your wedding/reception and you not have enough chairs/table/food ect.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Your first problem is that your deadline must have been kind of early since today is one month before the date you have listed. You may not have had a choice because of vendor demands, but early dates usually mean lower response rates because people are still working out their schedules and may not know yet if they can go or not.
Now a question: when was your RSVP date? Was it today or yesterday or within the last few days in general? Most people see the RSVO date as a mail-by date and maiel takes longer in December than usual.
So, all that said, yes, it is your responsibility to track these guests down. You can share the duty with your parents, your Fiance, and his parents though. You should start making calls about 5 or 6 days after the RSVP deadline. Don’t email, facebook, or text. Call these people in person.
Post # 5
I didn’t want to go hunt people down and luckily I didn’t have too many people not RSVP but I think it’s worse to have to deal with the anxiety of not knowing who’s coming. Yes, it’s rude and you shouldn’t have to hunt people down but unless you are prepared to have someone stand at the door of your wedding and turn anyone away that didn’t RSVP, then I would recommend asking everyone who didn’t answer. Because ultimatly, it doesn’t effect them if they don’t RSVP, it effects you.
Post # 6
You shouldn’t have to hunt them down…but you do! I was terribly bad at RSVPing when I was young I’ll admit
Post # 7
All very good points. I really appreciate the comments. The RSVP date was today. I figured it would be a good date so as not to get mixed up in the holidays… probably unavoidable though. I will definitely call who I can. Fortunately, we don’t have arranged seating planned and as many people who may show up that didnt RSVP, that number shouldn’t affect the catering number. Thanks so very much bees!