Post # 1
Is it just me, or is that a little excessive? I just realized I was supposed to have rsvp’d for a wedding Labor Day weekend by May 1. But I don’t know yet whether I will be able to attend, for various reasons. I don’t like being “that person” who doesn’t RSVP, but 4 months? Isn’t that a little early to set your deadline?
Post # 3
Whoa. That’s crazy. My RSVP date is a month before my wedding since it’s a small, intimate backyard wedding with mostly family.
Post # 4
Seems excessive to me. I am doing a Destination Wedding in Mexico and set my RSVP’s 2 months out from wedding day. If it were local I thik 4 weeks is plenty of time.
Post # 5
My RSVP deadline is a little less than 3 weeks before my wedding. 4 months is crazy unless maybe its a destination wedding?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We’re asking for them 4 weeks in advance- gives us a week to track everybody down, then confirm rentals, catering, etc.
I think that invite must have a B-list- wouldn’t be surprised if they sent round two out the end of May, with a July 1 deadline.
Post # 7
The wedding is in the town where they live. I guess it will be a “destination” for most people, because most of their friends and family live on the east or west coasts and they’re getting married in KY, but it’s not a destination wedding in the usual sense.
Post # 9
@rebwana: Oh, I didn’t think of the B-list thing. Interesting.
Post # 11
One of my BM’s is in another mutual friends wedding a month before mine (9/22 vs/ 08/11). I recieved her invite in March with an RSVP by date of today! I recieved it before I recieved the invite to another wedding I’m going to in June! I actually lost my RSVP (and luckily found it in time) But so did the Maid/Matron of Honor and she threatened to not have a chair and food for her! I’m making my RSVP by date 6 weeks before (only so I have 3 weeks to track down the MIA ones before I have to make my payments) and I think that’s borderline early…She claims her vendors are DEMANDING head counts by the end of this month. BUT i find it erally hard to believe that a vendor (ESPECIALLY a caterer) would demand that info so far ahead when it’s not like they’re buying the food NOW. I don’t know i think anything more than the 4-6 week mark is crazy… EVen for a destination wedding–sometimes people think they can’t afford it but as it gets closer thigns change and they can…
Post # 12
4 months is CrazyTown, even if it was a destination wedding on a holiday weekend.
Post # 13
We have to have our final numbers to the hall 21 days before the wedding, so I think I’m going to make the deadline a week before that.
Post # 14
I’m doing roughly a month before the wedding. 4 months is definitely unreasonable. They’re probably going to get more than several yesses that turn into “no”s.
Post # 15
How on earth are you supposed to confirm that you can be somewhere that early? I can’t imagine the no show rate with such a long lead time to confirm. Things are bound to come up for some people.
Our RSVP date was four weeks before the wedding.
Post # 16
Darling Husband and I received a wedding invite with an RSVP date SIX MONTHS ahead of the actual wedding.