RSVP deadlines….

posted 3 years ago in January 2014
Post # 3
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Same boat – we are going to start calling/fb’ing/emailing this weekend 🙂  I just don’t get it – it is SO rude.

Post # 4
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975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

People don’t understand that you need to know exact numbers for the caters, chair rentals, etc. They just don’t want to to tell you they don’t want to come! They will finally understand if they get married. I think that is a fairly normal number of non-answers. That is why we are doing online RSVP, easier and free! 

Post # 5
Hostess
9903 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@SophieB3:  I would give people a week – a lot of people see the deadline as a send by date not a ‘we need to know by’ date.  Also, mail tends to be slower this time of year due to volume!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@SophieB3:  @Pixienickie:  

I also did online RSVP and it worked out wonderfully, though my guest list was only about 60 people to begin with.

But even so, some people need an extra nudge on the side to get to their computer and RSVP.

Sometimes people just forget and need a little reminder – and I think our wedding dates are more “forgetful” because of all the holidays before them.  People wanted to wait on the RSVP because they weren’t sure how their holiday plans/work vacation days would work out. 🙂

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I had both an online option AND a mail-back option, and with the wedding two weeks away there are still over 50 people we haven’t heard from. It IS incredibly rude, but as another person noted, the holidays don’t help with memory. Our RSVP’s are at the bottom of their to-do lists. That being said, it IS still rude. With all of the last minute details, the last thing we want to be doing is calling everyone… Best of luck!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Redholix:  

@CzechBride14:  

I know I’m not a January bride, but I did want to respond to the online RSVP.  That is what we are doing, but I was thinking about that the other day when we were creating our website.  So they can search for their name and click RSVP yes or no, and be done, quite simple right?  Well if I’m getting an invitation in the mail that says RSVP online, I would think, okay, if I’m not going I don’t need to get online to say no I’m not going.  Do you think that might be part of the problem?  Although TexasBride you said you did both online and mail, so I don’t get the hold up.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@meke:  

All of our guests RSVPed, whether it was a No or a Yes, and those who RSVPed No actually sent us an email letting us know why.  Perhaps we have an exceptional group of guests (given that we only invited closest friends and families).

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Our RSVP date was December 14th, and I was 19 short out of 62. That’s a whopping 31% missing! It was annoying that people couldn’t manage it with a pre-addressed and stamped envelope.

I did get two late on December 17th. My mother also started calling yesterday and got verbal RSVPs from most. Just a few more to round up this weekend. I wish I just knew my final numbers now!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@SophieB3:  Well, I just got another today! 5 days past…

I gotta say, most of my late RSVPs have said yes. In a lot of cases I think they were really trying to make things work to come to the wedding, so they had to push it to the last minute. I’m less annoyed now. But dang, my numbers really shot up this week!

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