RSVP Disappointment

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsGinkgo:  Have you never in your life had to decline an invitation? Just don’t take it so personally.

Post # 4
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee

Also, keep in mind that their plans could change and they may be able to come after all.  You still send them an invitation.

Post # 6
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

=[ A bride’s worst fear! You never know, they may decide that they can make it afterall, a STD isn’t an invitation, so still send them an invite.

Post # 7
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MsGinkgo:  I agree – still send the invite as you never know what might change between now and your wedding day. Also, do you have some other peoply you could potentially invite now that you may have more seats available? 

Ultimately, you have no control over how many people are able to attend. Don’t stress the things you can’t change – it just takes away from the enjoyment of the wedding day build-up 🙂

Post # 8
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6021 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MsGinkgo:  I think you need to acknowledge that some of your disappointment may be due to the fact that your grandmother and your grandfather have health issues and that the declined RSVP is just the trigger. In other words… you might be feeling blue because this is a pretty solid reminder that they are not as young or healthy as they used to be, and it’s hard to see the people we love getting old and frail.

Post # 9
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3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsGinkgo:  two things.

just know that the people who are meant to be at your wedding will be there.

and, it will cost less if fewer people come.

always try to find the silver lining and stay positive. your marriage is what it’s all about. stay focused, grasshopper.

Post # 10
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MsGinkgo:  I’m going through the same thing with my fiance’s family. We’re having the wedding in MA and 99% of his family and friends are in the South or other parts of the country. We’ve heard through his mom that not a lot of his family will be able to make it, and we expected that, but so far we haven’t heard back from a single member of his family or friends (besides his parents and sister, who were always coming). I made a prelim seating chart and there are 5 full tables of people that haven’t yet responded – and they’re all from his side! I’m so worried that our wedding will consist of 100 of my family members and friends and 8 members of his family. 

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