(Closed) RSVP Drama… avoided.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is a wonderful thread! I think I’ll do this instead. 

Originally I was thinking of giving guests two ways to RSVP one online and the second is an RSVP card, but I had always been worried people still wouldn’t go to the website even though I’ll have it plastered on anything to do with the wedding! 

I like this idea a lot and will be getting rid of my paper RSVP cards now, and like you said it saves on paper and stamps, and anything to help us save money is loved. 

I am mainly worried about my FI’s family they are all word of mouth type of people and like to do things at their own pace. My biggest fear is that they are going to call us up, and say that they’ll come and not tell me who all is coming to the wedding with them….And this would all about a week before my wedding. xD! I am scaring myself now….ANYWAYS! 

Thanks for the idea, I love it. <3

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

So far online has worked great for us too! A couple international relatives couldn’t figure it out, so we just asked them what they wanted to eat and filled it out for them (they just couldn’t understand enough English to read the site, so the same problem could have happened w/ cards!). We still have some stragglers, but it’s not even our RSVP date yet, and we know that those people know how to RSVP, they’re just making sure they can attend 🙂 SO glad we went with the online route!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Great! I am torn between this and regular mail RSVPs. Only because I designed some really cute mail cards. I guess I just need to spend more time designing a card with the online info!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Can you describe how your RSVP system worked??  I’m most interested in knowing how they could only RSVP for who exactly was invited!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I used weddingwire.com for my wedding website and it has an RSVP feature as described by the OP.  I decided to go with both paper RSVP and online RSVP as options because I know there’s quite a few people who are friends of my parents or older family members who don’t go online.  I am hoping this approach covers all bases.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@elysion:  Try weddingwire.com they have free websites and they have an RSVP system where you can make up households and put each person in one household that you have invited for the wedding, so no one can do add-ons.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

@Tangled:  Did people have to register or anything?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Some members of my family are so computer illiterate they would probably end up like Zoolander.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Thanks for the input! I have printed my invitations and am doing online RSVP, but I set my website up through a site that does not have that RSVP function. However, I’m thinking perhaps I will link to one of those sites on the RSVP page so that I can use the “limited” guest list function.

We are also giving people a phone number to RSVP as some aren’t good with computers. It is a Google Voice # where we can leave very specific instructions on the voicemail on how to RSVP since that is the only use for the number.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Congratulations on finding a way to avoid problems with your RSVPs!

I am thankful that I also managed to avoid any RSVP drama.  I did not use any type of electronic RSVP.  However, I had very formal invitations with professionally calligraphed inner and outer envelopes.  This was extremely helpful in ensuring that guests knew who, specifically, was being invited.

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