(Closed) RSVP Emergency…I need help BEES!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Have your mom or one of your BMs call her or email her and lay down the law.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

Can you just give her a call and nicely explain the situation?  I can’t imagine she would get upset!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Do you have a bridesmaid who knows her as well? Have your bm or mom call and  explain that her invite was for 1 (or 2, did she get a plus-one?), and they’re so embarrassed but have to ask her to choose one guest, etc.

Separate that dirty work from yourself!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

How do you best communicate with her?  I’d email her or call her give her the speech:  I received your RSVP and am thrilled you will be attending, but we only reserved one seat for you and a noticed your RSVP card listed 5.  I’m so sorry, but we can’t accommodate the extra guests.  I hope you’ll still be able to make it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would call her to see what the names are of the people first, for purposes of (even if you aren’t doing escort cards , say that you might do them now?!) Just as an excuse so you aren’t totally coming at her from the start.

 Then find out who they are and tell her you aren’t comfortable having others come that you don’t even know or for that matter weren’t invited. If you aren’t that close to her anymore and dont even really know why you invited her, i dont think it would hurt. Your paying for them to eat your food i’m assuming, why should you have to foot her groups bill?

I hope this helps a little That really stinks, i am also worried that may happen!!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Agreed.  Have your mom (who I am sure knows her from when you were in High School together) or one of your mutual friends call and let her know that since she was the only one invited, she is the only one who can come (more tactfully than I said it of course!).

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think oracle’s wording is the best way to go.

PS – WHY WHY WHY do people do this?!?!?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with what oracle said. Im not sure I would have your mom call though, I personally think you should call yourself. Gosh some people are just so inconsiderate its horrible!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Keep us posted on the response! I’m anticipating this happening when our time rolls around.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow. Your mom rocks. I would have totally freaked out and wouldn’t have handled this situation nearly so well.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

All I can say is WOW.  Some people really just don’t get it.  A wedding isn’t an open invitation to the world.  YOU choose the guest list, and your guests need to abide by those decisions.  It’s really good that you have some flexibility with your #s so that you could accommodate the extra 2 guests.  It sounds like this got worked out really diplomatically.  Good job!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am so worried about this happening with all our freinds. We (mostly FI) have a very big group of friends, most still in college, so they aren’t really experience with the whole wedding etiquette thing yet. I know this is going to happen to me but I will try really hard to get someone else to call for me! haha

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