(Closed) RSVP Etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Is there anyone who could help you with the calls? Mom or MOH? I totally agree you SHOULDN’T have to follow up, but the reality is, they are your loved ones and if you want to include them you need to know. 

Post # 4
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@gemini2loveme:  It’s rude, but I’m sure that every bride on here that is married, will tell you that they had to call/email guests who did not rsvp.  In some cases you will have to call/email more than once. I think giving a week for responses to come in after the deadline is pretty standard as well. 

Post # 5
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

Typically those who don’t RSVP dont’ attend, but I will say that if you choose not to follow up, you might want to be prepared for some of those people showing up. I know that we had about 15 outstanding as well, and 12 of them said no, but 3 of them said yes. If I hadn’t of followed up, we would have had 6 people the day of with no where to sit. That would have been awkward. Is there anyone who can help you with the calls

Post # 8
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1426 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly, it’s to be expected.  People are forgetful.  Just make the call/text/email and feel better and less stressed about knowing who is and isn’t attending.

Post # 9
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You gotta call to follow up on those rsvps and get a definite yes or no answer from them. Like mwitter80 said pretty much every bride has to go through this, its just the annoying nature of some guests.

Post # 10
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5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Yeah, it is kind of rude, but it’s a reality of RSVPs. Just call them, it’s MORE stressful the day of when people show up who you had no idea were coming.

Post # 11
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159 posts
Blushing bee

And sometimes mail does get lost in the mail – rsvp cards are tiny compared to regular mail, and they can get stuck in transit…benefit of the doubt ๐Ÿ™‚ can be a good thing when making contact !

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