Post # 1
Our RSVP cut off date is today (Mar2) and being that we still have about 15 Unknowns, I was going to wait till Tuesday to follow up on the “Unknowns” but deep down I feel like I should not have to make time to call everyone individually if our so called “loved ones” cannot simply reply with a yes or no. I understand the hustle and bustle of everyday duties but does anyone else find this a bit rude? I almost just want to assume “Hey, I am not able to attend”…What did you do?
Post # 3
Is there anyone who could help you with the calls? Mom or MOH? I totally agree you SHOULDN’T have to follow up, but the reality is, they are your loved ones and if you want to include them you need to know.
Post # 4
@gemini2loveme: It’s rude, but I’m sure that every bride on here that is married, will tell you that they had to call/email guests who did not rsvp. In some cases you will have to call/email more than once. I think giving a week for responses to come in after the deadline is pretty standard as well.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
Typically those who don’t RSVP dont’ attend, but I will say that if you choose not to follow up, you might want to be prepared for some of those people showing up. I know that we had about 15 outstanding as well, and 12 of them said no, but 3 of them said yes. If I hadn’t of followed up, we would have had 6 people the day of with no where to sit. That would have been awkward. Is there anyone who can help you with the calls
Post # 6
Thanks amandaks86 my MIL offered to do this for me but I am still like “Ugh” [Lol] 😉 I feel if 7 weeks time is not enough to respond maybe we are not as important as they are to us, we are having a very small intimate [50 ppl] ceremony reception, as it is it was hard to narrow down the list! ;-)..kinda feel offended actually..cuz I know probably my buddy 3 cubicles down from me would have totally been on point about it… 😉
Post # 7
Thank you gals, I tend to be a stubborn lil terd sometimes 😉
Post # 8
Honestly, it’s to be expected. People are forgetful. Just make the call/text/email and feel better and less stressed about knowing who is and isn’t attending.
Post # 9
You gotta call to follow up on those rsvps and get a definite yes or no answer from them. Like mwitter80 said pretty much every bride has to go through this, its just the annoying nature of some guests.
Post # 10
Yeah, it is kind of rude, but it’s a reality of RSVPs. Just call them, it’s MORE stressful the day of when people show up who you had no idea were coming.
Post # 11
And sometimes mail does get lost in the mail – rsvp cards are tiny compared to regular mail, and they can get stuck in transit…benefit of the doubt 🙂 can be a good thing when making contact !