(Closed) RSVP etiquette and family (lacking etiquette)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yes, your Fiance needs to contact the cousin and ask if the gf is coming or not. If cousin doesn’t give you an answer, asume she isn’t coming and make your table arrangements accordingly. Same with the boss. It’s a pain when people don’t rsvp, especially when you make it so easy for them!

But beyond that, really try to just let it go. It’s totally not worth getting upset about. Some people, especially those who haven’t planned an event like a wedding before, don’t realize how much their rsvp matters. Yes, it’s inconsiderate of them, but it doesn’t make them terrible people. And being upset about it isn’t going to change them. Chances are you’ll have a couple people who rsvp’ed yes who won’t end up showing up as well, so even if cousin’s gf shows up after saying no/not responding, you’re venue will easily be able to accomodate them 🙂

Post # 4
990 posts
Busy bee

discount her and instruct your ushers not to let her in…but thats just me, I dont have tolerance for that kind of behavior

Post # 5
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have these same issues. I had like 10 people on my fiance’s side missing RSVP’s by the deadline and I deleted them all and was really mad only to then have to add some back without even a word of apology and be madder. RSVPing is common courtesy and I can’t stress it enough. It enrages me. 

Post # 6
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If they are in a serious relationship, then she is more than likely coming since you know he is.  Put her on the list and leave it at that.  You don’t want to not count her then she show up and you tell her she can’t come in because that is going to to create problems with the family.  One person isn’t going to ruin the wedding day.  Is it annoying? Yes.  Is it going to make everything horrible if she doesn’t show up? No.  And you said they moved, so how do you know they even got the invitation?

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