Post # 1
I hear so many nightmare stories about RSVPs – people not returning them, filling them out wrong, etc. Is there any way you can put something like this on the actual RSVP:
“There will only be enough chairs and food for those that RSVP. Kindly RSVP by …..”
Or is there a better, more polite way to say it? Can’t say it at all? I don’t want to come off as rude, but I want people to get …. you don’t return this card with the number attending, you won’t have a chair to sit in.
What did you do?
Post # 3
I think what you are looking to say has no polite way of saying it. You should just stick with the normal RSVP and give yourself a week or two buffer of when you actually need them back. When people haven’t replied (trust me they won’t) You then send and email or a facebook message that says, “We didn’t receive your reply card, there will only be enough chairs and food for those that RSVP” At that point it would be appropriate.
Post # 4
Could you just call the people that don’t respond? We’re kind of hoping people send them back since we’ll be putting stamps on them but I know we’ll probably get no responses as well as people that just tell us. To make sure we don’t go over budget/capacity though we did add a line that says “___ out of ___ guests invited are attending” so we can write in the number.
Post # 5
@milesbella: I would just put “Please RSVP by ____” and give yourself a time buffer.
After that date (and a few days) have passed, get on the phone and call all of those who haven’t RSVP’d to get their responses. Enlist FI, you mom, FMIL, etc if you have to.