(Closed) RSVP Ettiquette Question…. Help!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would say definitely call the bride. I know I would really appreciate to be kept in the loop if it were me and I wouldn’t want you to bring someone else in place of your husband. She might be able to include someone else whom she couldn’t invite or maybe it’s not too late to tell the caters so she doesn’t have to eat the cost.

Post # 4
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2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would call her and explain the situation and ask what she would prefer if he’s not able to make the wedding. Definitely don’t just bring someone else to the wedding without her permission if your husband can’t go.

Post # 5
Member
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would deff call her and let her know he cant come. I would be really mad if someone swapped a guest on me because I dont want people at my wedding I dont know.

Post # 6
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Definitely call the bride. You’ll make her more upset if you bring a different guest than your husband.

Post # 8
Member
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

if it were me, I’d call the bride, explain the situation, and see what she says.  Also, is it possible your husband could request the time off at work since it’s so early?  I know that at two hospitals around here, you have to put in two months early (ok, for one definitely, but I think it’s a month or two for the other). 

the worse his job can say is “sorry, but how it falls is how it falls”…. 

Post # 10
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@FallFlowers: ugh.  one of those places… that bites.  at wal-mart, when I worked there, it was a running joke amongst a lot of us that you’d have to have your own death preapproved!  (yes, we were a morbid bunch, lol). 

so, sooo sorry you have to deal with such stress and hassle. 🙁  hopefully the bride will understand and be sympathetic. 

also, don’t forget that things come up and not everyone who RSVP’s yes are always able to show up.  so even if he can’t come, I doubt he’ll be the only one unable to show.  still sucks, though. 🙁 maybe he’ll get approved this time with prior notice!!! 🙂

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