RSVP Ettiquette

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Since she was invited to your wedding, she knows you’re married and probably expects you to put 2 guests (you and your husband).

Post # 4
1243 posts
Bumble bee

@michellemariabv:  Given you are married, put 2.  In the event that she for some reason does not wish to include him on the formal invitation (which would be extremely rude), she still has that option when she addresses them.

Post # 5
6446 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LadyBear:  +1

I would assume my husband is invited. If I wasn’t married I would probably ask but I would definitely assume DH was invited if I received something like this.

Post # 6
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

put 2, you are married and she knows this. If she can only have you she will let you know.

Post # 7
2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@michellemariabv:  if you put down 1…she will only send you an invitation for one…. put in 2 (she should know your a unit now), and if there is an issue, she will send you an invite for 1, and you will know 100% if she has space without having to have the awkward conversation. If she doesnt have room she may call you and then you can just say “I totally understand, no need to explain, its really fine”.

Post # 9
6666 posts
Bee Keeper

This all seems bass ackwards to me.  You don’t pre-RSVP to a wedding.    Either it’s an invitation or a request for addresses, not both. If it was an invitation, either  your H was referenced on the evite or he wasn’t.

In this case, since it’s impossible to know what is going on, I would call the teacher.  The sticky part is that you didn’t invite her finance when it was your turn.  They were a social unit back then and he should have been invited or neither of them.  It’s hard to know if this is reciprocal  for that or if it’s just a poorly done, confusing invitation.

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