(Closed) RSVP expectations

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is definitely not normal. Though today was our deadline and we were still missing about 15% of them. We got alot of verbal responses, but I need people’s meal choices and stuff.

People are stupid.

Post # 4
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ps. I would talk to the parents and ask them to get in touch with people and see whats up.

Post # 6
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Send this e-mail out a few days after the RSVP deadline has passed- works like a charm.

“Hi- Just wanted to check on your RSVP for our wedding on (DATE). We know you easy it is to let these dates get away from you, however we need to give our caterer a final number of guests. If we don’t hear back from you by (DATE), we’ll have to assume that you are unable to attend.”

I agree- WTH is wrong with some people. Don’t waste my stamps!!!

Post # 7
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were in the same boat as you-a handful of people rsvp’d right away and then we were in the last week before the deadline and still nothing. I think for whatever reason people just like to wait ’til the last minute-it was mostly younger people. We sent a FB message to all the slackers to rsvp and it worked great.

Post # 9
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You self-addressed the envelope, but did you stamp it?

Post # 11
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1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@laurn88:  eh, I’d say since you didn’t stamp them that might be part of the reason. I’ve never received an rsvp without a self-addressed, stamped envelope unless they wanted rsvps by phone or email. I’m not saying this excuses it but it might just be one of those little things, ya know?

Post # 12
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I do think that’s a big part of the reason you’re not getting responses.  We stamped envelopes and offered online RSVP to make responding as easy as possible.  We sent our invitations out a week ago today, and we have 8 RSVPs back out of 71. 

It does suck that you’re not getting acknowledgments at all though.  I think rebwana’s follow-up email will do the trick.

 

Post # 13
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@laurn88:  Two of the RSVPs i received was because they open the envelopes infront of me….strange.

Now calling these people is going to cost.

How do you do this.

Hi Aunty ZEE

I sent you an invitation, did you get?  are coming?

Ok by.

Now Aunty Zee is a long talker, how do you cut the conversation short without been rude 

Post # 14
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am shocked by how many of my invited guests just casually mentioned they are coming to our wedding and said they don’t have the RSVP card when I asked them to mail it to me in addition to telling me verbally.  I certainly don’t expect anyone to keep our invitation hanging on their fridge for a month but for heavens sake fill out the RSVP card and send it back.  I think until you’ve planned a wedding of your own people just don’t get it! 

Post # 15
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719 posts
Busy bee

I would guess the stamp thing is a factor.  Since most people do a majority of their business online now, people don’t always have stamps on hand and didn’t bother going to the post office.  I think a friendly email reminder is the way to go.   🙂 

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