Post # 1
Our RSVP deadline is this week and we have 15 RSVP’s that haven’t been received yet. They’re all FI’s friends. Did your FI assist with the RSVP follow up calls? My FI hates confrontation and I think it will probably be easier to make the calls myself than to argue with him to get him to do it. Is that too awkward to call people that I’ve never met, or only met once, to get their RSVP?
Post # 3
FI will most certainly help. If it’s his friend he should call, I don’t think it’s confrontation at all. You’re just calling to ask if they’re coming or not.
I don’t think it’s weird for you to call but I don’t see why he can’t just help you out.
Post # 4
He tried, bless his heart. I ended up doing most of them.
Post # 5
@Ms. Martian: You’re right that he should help and that it doesn’t have to be confrontational, but he’ll see it that we’re telling his friends that they did something wrong by not replying. So, while we can say it in the nicest way possible, it’s true that the bottom line is that the purpose of the call is to ask if his friends are coming because they failed to mail the RSVP card.
Post # 6
FI followed up with his side and I followed up with my side. He sent an email and I think his family spread the word that we were waiting to hear. Luckily it wasn’t many people we needed to hear from.
Post # 7
He surprised me by being right on it! I was going to give people a week past the deadline (one of the reasons I set the date early) but, day after the deadline he wanted to know who hadn’t responded and started calling/texting immediately! Whew!!
I was going to suggest wording (instead of saying, hi friend, you missed the deadline, just say, touching base to see whether you could make it to the wedding) but I didn’t get the chance – he did a great job on his own, and in his style!
Post # 8
We haven’t met our deadline yet, but everyone who I have known gives a list to the mom’s of the people who haven’t RSVP’d who “belong” to that mom. So on August 18th when the mailman comes empty handed, I will give FI’s mom all the names of her friends/fam who didn’t respond, my mom all her friends, and FI all his friends’ to bug, and I’ll bug all my friends and family.
Post # 9
My fi has been really on top of this. He says he feels bad that I’ve carried the bulk of the planning (by mutual decision though) and this and the seating chart are the least he can do.
Post # 10
Our RSVP deadline isn’t for another two weeks, but he will be the one contacting his sides. He has been helpful in contacting his friends regarding extra guests as well so I’m sure he will be great when its time to track those RSVP down.
Post # 11
FI claims that a lack of an RSVP = a no. So he thinks he won’t have to call anyone. But I’ll make sure he does :).