Post # 1
Our wedding menu is a set tasting menu and it’s a few different dishes served per course. Should I include some kind of wording that if any of our guests have any food allergies to let us know? Or How would I word it on our RSVP card? or is this something that shouldn’t be on there?
Post # 3
Well it depends on what you plan to do if someone has one. If you can accomodate them and order them a special option, then maybe put something like:
Please let us know if you have any special dietary needs.
But you open yourself up to having a lot of people make special requests that you have to accomodate. Might be better to have a menu and let people decide for themselves which courses to skip. Definitely try to have a few options for biggies (like vegetarian)…but otherwise I think you first need to decide how you’re going to handle responses.
Post # 4
Could you say "Please advise of any dietary restrictions:" and then leave a gap for them to fill in on the card? Then you won’t have to remember who has what, as you’ll have it on record to refer to.
Post # 5
When I first read your question, I was envisioning something like "Roast Beef (includes soy products)" or "Smoked Salmon (includes nuts)" which would be a nice way to give guests a heads up if you know you have guests with food allergies. If you’re ready to take on the barrage of special dietary requests, PP’s ideas are simple, but seem like inviting a lot of trouble.