Post # 1
So I now dwell in RSVP hell. My aunts have told people that they don’t undersand why I am asking for the RSVPs back because I am supposed to have extra seats anyway.
Yep they are right I am supposed to have 10% over the amount that RSVP’d. Which means 60 seats. Btw 60 is about 1/2 of the friggin invited guest list. I am over it :D. I will put out about 60-65 seats which is all that the venue has. The end. I will rent about 30 chairs and that’s that.
Another aunt said that I should always set extra seats out anyway and she doesn’t understand why people who are getting married and can’t afford it don’t just go to the courthouse. Um excuse me?! It not only has to do with chairs but with napkins, chargers, linens, centerpieces etc.
Of course none of this was said to me or my mom. I mentioned to her that I will do a VIP list and that if people “show up” they will come in after the folks on the VIP list and eat after them. Can you believe this?!
My cousin that it was told too basically said well if she doesn’t know how many are coming, how is she going to feed everyone?! To which the response was “she should budget for more”… wtf ever.
Whew that was long!!!
Post # 4
Poor you. Have you tried calling the RSVP-challenged people? I know that’s a big job with 60(!!!) of them, but maybe your family or members of your wedding party could split up the hit list.
Post # 5
Ugh. We just started calling people. Divided the list up between my husband, me and both sets of parents and eventually tracked almost everyone down.
Post # 6
That is insane? People don’t understand that you can’t have an unlimited supply of food available for whoever deigns to show up.
Post # 7
I have sent emails, texts and calls. The last date is Nov. 3rd. I am over them. If they show up, they wait. F’ em. I am not accommodating anyone who couldn’t put a stamped card back in the mail, nor respond to an email nor a text. They really can just be upset with me. Btw these are ALL family members. My family is soo large that I couldn’t invite friends so I only invited like 5. Btw my friends rsvp’d.
Post # 8
When will people learn to keep their comments to themselves?!? I’m at the point where I want to tell people not to come because of their comments.
All they have to do is check yes or no on the rsvp and drop it in the mail. How hard is that?
Post # 9
@crebre80: haha i love your attitude now – i guess they’ll learn that they ain’t HBIC and have to walk on out to the mailbox and send back their RSVP card like the rest of the world. weirdos. they seem to be so concerned with YOUR etiquette that they’re ignoring their own! old people are like that though lol. sawwi!
Post # 10
Personally, if you can, I’d sic someone else on these people (re: your aunts) like your mom to set ’em straight. If she pulls rank, then they’re more likely to stfu.
Post # 11
@jenny: if I sic my mom on them they won’t show up lol!!! She is known as the mean one.
@elliestan: these aunts are in their early 40s!!! They are just bitter b.tches that I shouldn’t have invited. And yeppers they will wait. If I don’t do anything else I will make them sit outside.
Post # 12
It boggles my mind that anyone has that much difficulty returning an RSVP card. Seriously people – check the box next to “yes” or “no” and put the damn thing in a mailbox! Is this so intellectually challenging that some people just cannot handle it? Gah!!
Post # 13
@crebre80: My mama is known as the mean one or the one who doesn’t mind keeping it real. I’ve been sticking her on a lot of people, and I am starting to act like her now. lol I say have your mama deal with them.
Post # 14
LOL! I just remembered talking to my youngest sister the other day and she bitched over having to snail mail something. When I asked her what the problem was, she said “Oh, I hate having to walk to the post office.”
“Uh, you know that the mailmen come to you. You can just put the mail in your mailbox, raise the flag, and they’ll pick it up from you.”
“Really?” she said.
I swear, she’s not a dummy–she’s in school at Stanford–but sometimes I wonder. Maybe you’ve got guests who’ve forgotten such charms of the USPS?
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
I am going to dread the RSVP process. Hope things work out/no more comments from your aunts.
Post # 16
Wow, how ridiculous! This is the reason I’ve been changing my mind from an open seating layout (pretty common around here) to a specified seating chart so that those who feel free to show up without an RSVP will be waiting until those who have RSVP’d are properly seated and fed. Also, our venue (and others that we’d checked out) do not allow you to bring home the additional food left over. So are they really expecting you to order 60 extra plates that may never be eaten by guests and that you cannot bring home?! Glad you were able to track most of them down.