(Closed) RSVP HELL!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hear you!  We had to chase down about 50% of our guest list after the deadline passed, including ALL of DH’s mother’s family and friends.

Post # 4
Bee
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge

Things ran way beyond our deadline – mostly from FI’s family. Every family has its own rhythm, as uspetting as it might be to us.

Post # 5
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Going through the same thing right now. Most of my FI’s family and friends have RSVP’d, but it is my family that is lagging behind. My mom’s family was pretty good about it, but it is my dad’s side that is just awful. Let the hunting down begin.

Post # 6
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100 posts
Blushing bee

I hear ya. We sent out the stamped address cards/envelopes and still had people who handed them to us… AT THE WEDDING.

Post # 7
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know it’s frustrating… but honestly… as long as you’re getting responses from them (in person, facebook) who cares by what means they choose to do it?

Post # 8
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hmmm. Thanks for posting this. Do others think this is due to the nature of the RSVP (no cards) or just that people are bad at RSVP’ing no matter how you do it?

I’m planning on doing web/phone rather than mail (maybe mail for a few people) but am really waffling on it.

I just feel like people who are going to RSVP, are going to RSVP no matter what the method. People who aren’t wouldn’t be more inspired to do so by a card with an envelope. But maybe I am off?

Post # 9
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Mine are due back on 10/1 and I still have 18 that are outstanding.  That’s almost 25%.  I’m annoyed. 

 

I feel your pain, girl.

Post # 10
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3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh no, that sounds awful. My fiance and I sent out our invites and also offered two ways to RSVP. Either via our wedding website or by phone. 7 people have RSVP… out of 165. Three weeks until the cut off date… I hope these people step up their game, because it’s quite annoying.

Post # 12
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel your pain.  Never in a million years did I think I would be stressing over RSVPs like this.  Our deadline was 9.22 and we are still chasing people down.   

Post # 13
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10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

@csperry2:  +1

It may not be your favorite way of getting the response, but what counts is that you got it right? So many brides on here complain about not hearing back at all, so you’re lucky. 

Post # 14
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have had very few people from FI side RSVP, my family has been good by at least sending me an email or FB message, but only one person has RSVP from his family, since we have a month to go we’re going to have to start making calls, it is frustrating tho becuase we just need to know either way if they can make it (were having buffet style, so no menu cards). 

Post # 15
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m ten days away from my wedding and still trying to track down 150 people.  Beyond pissed!

Post # 16
Member
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The worst is when someone who has recently gotten married neglects to RSVP, because you know that they know exactly how it feels to be on the other side of this!

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