Post # 1
Small rant and I’ll feel better.
WE send out invites and outlined a few ways to RSVP, we didn’t want to do mail in cards as we were moving in the middle of all of this and didn’t trust things wouldn’t get lost at the post office. Guests were ased to RSVP with any dietary restrictions via out website, an email account we set up or by phone. Responses are due on the weekend.
My friends and fam didn’t have much issue with this and all of them did it in a reasonable amount of time the way I outlined. SO FAR not a SINGLE one of my DF’s fam/friends have RSVP’d in one fo the ways we asked! I’ve gotten an in person oh ya we’re coming or a facebook message (which drives me MAD!) some of them seemed annoyed that they have to, as if we magicaly know what they are doing or that so and so is a vegetarian. I had his sister a BM “remind” folks to RSVP asap as the deadline approaches and now I’m just gettin FB wall msgs etc.. I’m soo freakin annoyed I want to forget the whole damn thing (for this and other reasons all his fam not him I love him very much and just elope!)
*sighs* rant complete.. I just think its not asking much to send an email or use a quick web form to say Hey yes we can’t wait… rather than a lazy ass FB MSG we might not even see! I don’t love on the thing!
Post # 3
I hear you! We had to chase down about 50% of our guest list after the deadline passed, including ALL of DH’s mother’s family and friends.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge
Things ran way beyond our deadline – mostly from FI’s family. Every family has its own rhythm, as uspetting as it might be to us.
Post # 5
Going through the same thing right now. Most of my FI’s family and friends have RSVP’d, but it is my family that is lagging behind. My mom’s family was pretty good about it, but it is my dad’s side that is just awful. Let the hunting down begin.
Post # 6
I hear ya. We sent out the stamped address cards/envelopes and still had people who handed them to us… AT THE WEDDING.
Post # 7
I know it’s frustrating… but honestly… as long as you’re getting responses from them (in person, facebook) who cares by what means they choose to do it?
Post # 8
Hmmm. Thanks for posting this. Do others think this is due to the nature of the RSVP (no cards) or just that people are bad at RSVP’ing no matter how you do it?
I’m planning on doing web/phone rather than mail (maybe mail for a few people) but am really waffling on it.
I just feel like people who are going to RSVP, are going to RSVP no matter what the method. People who aren’t wouldn’t be more inspired to do so by a card with an envelope. But maybe I am off?
Post # 9
Mine are due back on 10/1 and I still have 18 that are outstanding. That’s almost 25%. I’m annoyed.
I feel your pain, girl.
Post # 10
Oh no, that sounds awful. My fiance and I sent out our invites and also offered two ways to RSVP. Either via our wedding website or by phone. 7 people have RSVP… out of 165. Three weeks until the cut off date… I hope these people step up their game, because it’s quite annoying.
Post # 11
The problem with it being on FB is not that I’m just picky.. its that I don’t always sEE it.. someone else’s wall commenting about the wedding adding a comment that you’re going shouldn’t be okay with anyone as an RSVP? I shoudn’t need to chase things hense why I gave multiple ways to RSVP, I don’t need to extra stress searching for where someone may have RSVP’d….
Post # 12
I feel your pain. Never in a million years did I think I would be stressing over RSVPs like this. Our deadline was 9.22 and we are still chasing people down.
Post # 13
It may not be your favorite way of getting the response, but what counts is that you got it right? So many brides on here complain about not hearing back at all, so you’re lucky.
Post # 14
We have had very few people from FI side RSVP, my family has been good by at least sending me an email or FB message, but only one person has RSVP from his family, since we have a month to go we’re going to have to start making calls, it is frustrating tho becuase we just need to know either way if they can make it (were having buffet style, so no menu cards).
Post # 15
I’m ten days away from my wedding and still trying to track down 150 people. Beyond pissed!
Post # 16
The worst is when someone who has recently gotten married neglects to RSVP, because you know that they know exactly how it feels to be on the other side of this!