Post # 1
Ok so this is just a vent. We sent out save the dates in September. We sent out our invites 2 weeks ago. We sent out 170 invites. We have gotten 35 RSVP’s back. I stamped them, addressed them and even filled them out. All people had to do was check yes they are coming or no they are not. Not hard right? Apparently it is IMPOSSIBLE! FI’s cousin who has NO JOB and sits at home all day long playing video games can’t possibly get up on the couch and put the card in the mailbox right outside his door and lift the f-ing flag. He doesn’t even have to take it to the post office, the mailman will come get it. Fiance had talked to several of his buddies and they all said, yea we’re coming. Great, fantastic, send the g** damn card back then and tell me for sure you are coming!
I understand if people have other things that have come up or they have family functions or vacations or whatever. Just tell me. I am not going to hunt you down and make you feel bad for not coming. I just want to know whether or not I need to order a meal for you.
I still love the quote from my one bridesmaid from hell “well people just don’t RSVP, deal with it. Only 60% will come anyway, that’s what our caterer said to us 10 years ago”. Yea ok, piss off snatch! I really wanted to jump through the screen and slap her. I was kind of pissy that day and said back to her, well fine, I will plan on 60% like YOU said and if more show up, then you don’t get to eat and I will give you and your husbands meal to someone else! By The Way, she has yet to send her card back too. I know she is coming, but still need to know if she is bringing her husband.
I sound awful and bitchy and I am really not like that. Fiance has been amazing and has really gone above and beyond helping with the RSVPs. He understands why I am stressed and tries to help.
Anyone else want to vent??? I am on a roll today! Look out Good thing I don’t have to deal with the public today
Post # 3
LOL – I’m right there with you! Just send the thing in!!
Post # 4
I’m nervous about this, too!
Post # 5
It’s super rude…unfortunately people always just assume you KNOW they’re coming. I was so happy once our date to give final numbers to the caterer had passed so then I couldn’t stress about it – at that point I was just like “Whatever, hopefully there’s enough to eat.”
Post # 6
Fiance and I were talkign about it the other night and it baffles him as much as it does me. These people were sent a save the date months ago. You knew then if you were coming. You got the invite-SHOCKER!- you should still know if you are coming. Send it back. Hell, I don’t even care if they call, text or email or even facebook me! Tell me you are coming or that you are not able to. Just tell me!
Post # 7
I can’t wait for the date to give the final headcount to the caterer. I forewarned Fiance that I will have calls and texts and emails to make before I can give the headcount though. He said he would help.
And I guess if there isn’t enough food and those that show up without RSVPing, they can go to McDonalds. HAHAH J/K
Post # 8
We sent ours February 24th and asked for a response by March 15th. (Granted that was only 3 weeks notice, yet they got a save the date in Septemeber.) Well that was yesterday. We currently have 62 guests attending, 19 no’s and about 75 with no response. (Well I take that back, Fiance parents and relatives have said they are coming, just haven’t sent the RSVP back in.) I am going to wait until the 28th to get the card back and then I will start calling.
Post # 9
we are in the middle of this right now, ughhh, just send it back people. You don’t even have to buy a freaking stamp!
Post # 10
I remember going through this and it pissing me off so much. Harsh reality: Remember your wedding is only important to you, it’s just a party for everyone else
Post # 11
Blah, I will have to remember this, we are sending out our invites in the next few weeks here.
Post # 12
We just went through this, so I can totally feel your pain.
We sent out over 100 invites and a lot of people never responded. We wound up reaching out to them and that’s when they RSVP’d, over the phone. Never sent back the response and that made me so angry because I put stamps on the RSVP’s!!!
It’s so frustrating! 23 days to go!
Post # 13
We’re doing RSVP’s through our website. Put the invites in the mailbox on Sunday afternoon and already have 2 RSVP’s!
Post # 14
I’m breaking all rules in the book with our wedding, partly because of this!
I posted our STD on facebook in a private album for only those I tagged. Some of the responses left us laughing, too! I’m also doing a private facebook event, an online RSVP, and sending invites WITH rsvp’s and pre-addresses/stamped envelopes (well, maybe not pre-stamped. That’ll be up to my Fiance…).
If we don’t get the cards, we’ll email, message, and call, but I’m pretty sure with using facebook for most of our friends and several family members, it’ll be a lot easier than waiting for the card to be mailed back.
Post # 15
I just know I will have a bunch that we will have to track down. I just don’t understand how hard it is to check yes you are coming or no you are not. That’s all they have to fill out and write their names on it. Everything else is done. Stamped, addressed and it says how many seats are reserved.
Post # 16
How annoying! People know whether or not they are going come immediately!