- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I invited my mom’s best friend of almost 40 years to our wedding, along with her two grown children, who I grew up with but haven’t really spoken to much in the last 10 years or so.
Both she and her daughter attended my bridal shower, where she cornered me and asked if she could bring a date to the wedding (someone she had only been dating for a few weeks). I fumbled a sort of “umm, well, we weren’t really giving out +1s…” and had my mom explain to her, but when the RSVP card came back it had SIX people on it: herself, her date, and both her children and their significant others (none of whom I have ever met). My mom called her again to explain how my fiance and I really only wanted people we actually KNOW and who are important in our lives to share our special day, and now NONE of them are coming.
I’m hurt and upset because although I’m not close with her children anymore, my mom’s friend is like an aunt to me and I always imagined she would be at my wedding. She told my mom “everything was ok,” but I’m stiill worried that this will ruin my mom’s relationship with her in the long run. I think we are totally justified in just wanting people who are important in our lives at our wedding, not to mention the added expense of extra people! Is this a normal reaction?