Post # 1
My wedding day is in 2 weeks. My final counts for entrees is due into the caterer THIS friday…so 4 days.
Here is my situation:
My cousin and his wife RSVPed a few weeks ago. Great!
Then 2 days ago, my mom talks to my aunt and finds out that my cousin has been in the hospital for a week with severe back pain…. they think its a bulging disk. The pain was so bad that he was unable to walk. He’s out of the hospital now and back home.
So now I’m assuming that he and his wife are most likely NOT coming to the wedding. I know that they are 110% more concerned (and rightfully so) about his back problems and hospitalization stay, and that my upcoming wedding has not even crossed their minds, which is fine and completely okay.
So my question is….do I just assume that they aren’t going to be able to make it? Call to make sure? Still put them down for their entrees and just see what happens??
I feel like a B* for even asking if I should ask them if they are still coming….. I am totally horrified about my cousin’s condition and really just want him to focus on getting better and out of pain. However…I don’t want to waste money on entrees that people aren’t going to be there to eat.
Post # 3
You could call and ask. And if they can’t make it, tell them you will miss them and that you hope all is better soon. You are not a B! If you don’t want to call them directly, you could ask your aunt.
Post # 4
Why not just call and ask? Just call them up and say “I heard about Cousin’s back, is everything all right with you all?” and see where the conversation goes from there. As long as you call from a place of concern for your cousin I doubt you will seem like a B (just don’t call and say “I need to know if you’ll make it to the wedding because I don’t want to pay for your food if you can’t).
Post # 5
@PeachSnapple: Is this a first cousin? Can your mom or dad as his mom or dad (your aunt or uncle)? Yeah, tough spot and very little time left. Wish I could be more helpful but am thinking if you can have someone give you a little more insight you might have a better shot at making the right call.
Post # 6
Call and just be really nice about it. Inquire how he’s feeling, small talk a bit, then mention you have to give your caterer final #s and you wanted to make sure their situation hasn’t changed given everything they’ve been through.
Post # 7
@PeachSnapple: Just call them and ask about his condition, and do it in a genuine manner. I bet they will bring up the wedding – and if they can attend or not. If they don’t just say, “Well I hope you’re back on your feet in 2 weeks! We are really hoping to see you there!”