RSVP mini-problem – – how to handle it??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You could call and ask.  And if they can’t make it, tell them you will miss them and that you hope all is better soon.  You are not a B!  If you don’t want to call them directly, you could ask your aunt.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Why not just call and ask? Just call them up and say “I heard about Cousin’s back, is everything all right with you all?” and see where the conversation goes from there. As long as you call from a place of concern for your cousin I doubt you will seem like a B (just don’t call and say “I need to know if you’ll make it to the wedding because I don’t want to pay for your food if you can’t).

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@PeachSnapple:  Is this a first cousin? Can your mom or dad as his mom or dad (your aunt or uncle)? Yeah, tough spot and very little time left. Wish I could be more helpful but am thinking if you can have someone give you a little more insight you might have a better shot at making the right call.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Call and just be really nice about it. Inquire how he’s feeling, small talk a bit, then mention you have to give your caterer final #s and you wanted to make sure their situation hasn’t changed given everything they’ve been through.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@PeachSnapple:  Just call them and ask about his condition, and do it in a genuine manner. I bet they will bring up the wedding – and if they can attend or not. If they don’t just say, “Well I hope you’re back on your feet in 2 weeks! We are really hoping to see you there!” 

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