(Closed) RSVP no-no? or ok?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Honestly, most people sent me their responses via email and FB or text… I told them thanks for their response but I’d appreciate it if they mailed it back because I was keeping track of them a certain way (I just didn’t want my damn postage to go to waste! lol) 

I think now-a-days people prefer to send the responses electronically. 

Post # 4
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that’s completely fine…. save that postage! =)

Post # 5
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Honestly you know your guests better than we do. I’m inviting a lot of old school Italian family members who would be appalled if we did this. If your guests are more tech savvy than mine I don’t think it’s a problem!! 🙂

Post # 6
207 posts
Helper bee

I think its fine. I personally would have preferred to get all of my responses electronically, but we mailed ivites. One thing I would consider is not leaving the RSVP line blank. (depending on your venue and food budget) My RSVP read we have reserved ____of 2 seats for you. To at least limit the crazy people that would try to bring 3 and 4 people. Sorry we can only afford 2 guest per household..Exceptions with family. My friend got RSVP  response from people and some of them were outragious… 6 and 7 guest on one RSVP??? seriously?!

Post # 9
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I definitely wouldn’t be offended by having to reply via phone/email.  That’s what most people did for us anyway.  I asked them to mail them in anyway because I wanted them for a keep sake (and didn’t want the postage to go to waste).

Post # 10
588 posts
Busy bee

So not wasting the postage seems ok to most!! I’m totally doing this too then!! Thanks!!!

Post # 12
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think its fine I wouldnt worry bout it. Honeslty most people forget to mail them back anyways and then call or email and say btw we are coming… lol this is a good way to do it IMO.

Post # 13
7349 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m kind of a old-school kind of person, so it would not be my first choice, but I think its fine – you know your guests better than any of us.

Post # 14
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wish I would have done this! I think only 1/3 of my guests sent back RSVPs, everyone in my immediate family wanted to keep the RSVP card, weird.

Post # 15
35 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

As much as I would love for everyone to send me the cards back … I know it will never happen.
So I’m not going to waste money and pre-stamp the envelopes. I put my E-Mail address on them. And his family lives near by and will most likely either give us the card back, call/text him and tell him or send him a message on facebook.

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