Post # 1
I know this is against etiquette, but what does everyone think about RSVPing online?
We are considering sending out the RSVP card with no postage, so that guests can put their own on if they wish. However, we would automatically put the postage on them for our grandparents/elderly/others that we know don’t use the internet.
My sister says no way — everyone should have postage included. My sister-in-law says there are so many people online every day that it’s actually easier to remember to do an online RSVP rather than remembering to send out an RSVP. What do you think?
Post # 3
im not against RSVP online…. i think i will offer all the options: postage, online, and by phone…..not sure yet…
Post # 4
We are planning on doing online RSVPs. It saves a ton of paper, saves us money and the majority of our guests are always thinking environmentally consciously and will appreciate it. That being said, there are about 10 people who will get traditional response cards because they don’t have the internet (grandmas, great aunts, etc), but it will only be a few. I say go for it!
Post # 5
I’d go for it! Definitely still include the RSVP in paper form, but I think you’re fine leaving off the postage (I would, anyway :)).
Post # 6
I got an invitation that asked us to RSVP through e-mail. I actually prefer it because I hate finding a mail box and I never remember to drop the stupid thing off. This way I just automatically RSVP’d when I got the invite.
Post # 7
It’s much easier for me to RSVP online. You’ve already considered the people who may not do it. I say go for it!
Post # 8
I am going to do RSVP online or by phone because I dont feel we need to waste the paper or the expense. But if you are going to do it online, why provide paper RSVPs at all? If you are going to provide paper RSVPs I do think you should provide postage, or skip that piece all together.
We stated on our wedding website that it was an environmental choice. We did postcard STDs to avoid envelopes and have a tri fold invite without additional pieces of paper or envelopes. Our OTT bags are reuseable bags so it goes along with other items we are doing.
Some people will think it is strange and won;t like it (the older folks) but I am OK with that and have already defended our choices.
I had my aunt ask what about her mother in law who “doesnt do technology?” My response was “The phone is too technical?” Because phone is an option as well.
Post # 9
Im definitely only doing paper RSVP on a strict as needed bases, i.e., the person grew up in a cave somewhere. Everyone else can do online or phone.
Post # 10
I am doing RSVP online. We already have 4 inserts, and well I am just not doing the paper RSVP. If they can’t RSVP online, they can call.
Post # 11
@Wannabe-diy-bride: It’s not against etiquette. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Back then it was an etiquette no no to even include RSVP cards because you were implying that your guests did not know how to RSVP.
If RSVP online makes it easier for your guests, then you are doing it right. I’m doing RSVP online because 95% of my guestlist is online. I will still include the cards, but I’m not providing postage.
Post # 12
@PuntaCanaBride: I am totally the same! I would personally much rather go online to RSVP because I SUCK at returning/sending mail.
@lefeymw : I see your point about not even including the RSVP cards at all. We have inserts though (pocketfold style) so it makes sense. We’ll include the various ways to RSVP (website, phone, email) on this card but make it a postcard that they can send out if they need.
@Miss Tattoo: Good point about how using the RSVP card at all used to be a no-no! So true.
Post # 13
I would totally RSVP online. For older guests who probably don’t have computers, I would still have a paper RSVP. Several of my parents’ siblings don’t have Internet, for instance. Anyone who wants to tell you it’s tacky is lame. 😛
Post # 14
My sister is doing her RSVPs online. I’m making her wedding website for her which will have an easy to fill in RSVP form on it for guests. On her invitation it says “To RSVP, please visit XXXXandXXXX.com!”
However, I think it is a little odd to include a RSVP card and only provide some guests with postage. I would not put a card at all to guests that you expect to RSVP online. Having the card there seems to call attention to it not having postage lol, but it could just be me.
Post # 15
I included RSVP cards in the invites of people I don’t know well, and people who I know aren’t computer savvy. I included postage on all of them…..so i’d agree that if you are sending a card, include postage.