Post # 1
Our RSVP deadline is April 6th and I am starting to panic a bit. I expected to have to chase down some people but not so many. We invited 220 people but many are in different countries and can’t attend. We still sent courtesty invites to family and close friends.
As of now we have 102 YES and 42 NO. Most of the “NO’s” are the out of country invites. That means several people have yet to reply. Our RSVP is online via our wedding web site.
Should I be worried? A few people never received their invites in the mail so now I am afraid a whole bunch were lost or something!
Thanks for your feedback.
Post # 3
I think it’s normal for people to wait to the last minute or not respond at all, especially if their answer is no. Just wait until a few days after your deadline and then start calling people who haven’t responded.
Post # 4
My due date was April 1st, and there are 84 people who still haven’t responded. Ugh. Talk about nail-biting. Guests are the most annoying part of the wedding, sometimes.
Post # 5
I am going to do a RSVP on our website or by email/phone. I don’t trust mail! Maybe some got lost?
Post # 6
@Pinkmoon: We did our RSVP through our wedding web site online. I thought it would be “easier” for people to respond and they would do so more easily. I guess no matter what we will have the last minute/no replies!
Post # 7
@leafgum: It is so true! Totally nail biting here in Toronto too 🙂
Post # 8
Ugh, I know how you feel. My RSVP date is April 15th for a June 2nd wedding (wanted to give myself plenty of time), and probably a third of people still haven’t RSVPed.
Post # 9
I did mine online, and still over 100 haven’t RSVPd. They were due yesterday ughhhh.
Post # 10
We only had to chase down 1 couple (out of ~150 guests). There were a few people who never sent in the RSVP card but made it known from the start that they were definitely coming. Honestly, I was shocked that our families were so on top of it!
I would give it until the end of the week, since a lot of our RSVP cards were postmarked by our deadline but arrived a few days after.
Post # 11
I really had no idea that so many people would take so long to RSVP! I’m actually a bit shocked (and concerned) reading these posts, and seeing how many of mine have not responded after having had their invites for awhile. I can appreciate a ‘no’ that I don’t have to hunt down. There’s enough to do! Plus, we cannot go over 200 for space reasons and the caterer – and we’ve invited slightly over that and actually have a few people that we should really add… but we can’t really do that until we get some regrets. If we wait too much longer, they’re going to receive an invitation without adequate time to RSVP. I don’t want to be rude! A no is just as useful as a yes in this sort of thing. If you can’t make it, you can’t make it.
Post # 12
It is so very important to follow up with potential guests who have not returned an RSVP response. One of my friends didn’t receive RSVPs from several people for her wedding and instead of calling to confirm if they were planning to attend or not, she assumed they would not be attending and invited others from her “B List” in their place. She was unpleasantly surprised upon arrival at the reception to discover that many of those people who didn’t RSVP showed up and there weren’t enough tables, chairs, or meals. It was a very awkward situation, and she spent the first 20-30 minutes of her reception talking to the venue coordinator about options. The venue eventually set up additional tables and chairs (the linens did not match the custom ones she had rented, of course), but even after that, there still wasn’t enough food.