- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Unfortunately the average response rate is only about 40%– so most of those people wont ever send one, you’ll have to call them and track them down.
Yep, being a bride definitely changes your perspective on RSVPs, among other things!
The Bee has made me such a good person. The last two RSVPs I got I RSVP’d right away. Both times the brides told me I was the first to respond! They better remember that when they get mine…
I agree! I am also driving myself crazy waiting on RSVP’s to come. And thinking that no one will show up to my wedding because I havent gotten many back yet.
I totally agree! I’ve been so good about it since I started planning my wedding.
I actually got an invite in the mail yesterday and all I could think about was this post and getting it to the mail!
Then I thought “hmmmm, I wish they would have sent their RSVP to my wedding in thier wedding invite.”
I never rsvp but the bee has really changed my outlook on it now.
What annoys me most…is not getting RSVPs from people that I listened to complain about RSVPs during their wedding planning process…and not getting RSVPs from those that are planning now! No excuses! 🙂
I’ve actually always sent rsvps back as soon as I got them. Most of time I knew when the wedding was coming and my calendar was clear. I responded right away so I didn’t forget about it. I don’t get waiting to respond – what is the invite just sitting around waiting for your lazy butt to send it? LOL.
And I agree, waiting for rsvps sucks. Most of FI’s family hasn’t responded yet and most of my friends haven’t either (including those part of the bridal party).
I have decided that I was driving myself NUTS last week with the rsvps. And because of my emotional state, I took my frustrations out on FI and I have to apologize for being a bee-otch.
So, instead of driving myself nuts, I decided to just relax until the deadline. I’m not going to care much since I really can’t do anything until the deadline is here, so now I am going to chill, exercise and watch TV.
I have always RSVPed as soon as I have received an invite. What absolutely bugged me is that all the people that were dragging their feet are married so they should have known better. All of my unmarried friends were the first to RSVP.
Mine were due yesterday and we are now still waiting on a friends plus one (thou she only got the plus one a few days ago so she has another week to get back to me – her hubby can’t come and the only other mutual friend we have can’t come either so i gave her a plus one out of politeness) AND one of FIs mates & wife, thou they are having a baby nowish so theyre all baby baby baby (rightfully so) and so i figure we will get a straight answer out of them once the kid is out. (Told FI to tell him he has until the bucks to give a decision or he can’t come because catering etc is paid 2 days later)
I have learned so much from being a bride also. I actually didn’t RSVP or attend a very good friend’s wedding. I didn’t think it mattered much whether I attended because it was going to be a large wedding. I’m pretty shy so I just figured it was no big deal. I don’t really know if it was or not but now that I’m a bride I know that each invitation I send out is because I genuinely want the person at my wedding. That friend is definitely on my invite list. I still can’t believe I would do that. I had no idea how much people put into planning weddings.
@ShellVee: I am the opposite! Our single friends are totally dragging their feets. Most of them haven’t Rsvped yet.
@icetea: Yea, really puts things in perspective when you’re on the other side. Now, we know and in a way, we can give our single friends a break since we can say that they don’t know any better. I have to admit that sometimes I do get very annoyed by their late rsvp’s and feel like I should give them a taste of their own medicine when they are getting married and wait until the very last minute to rsvp, but then I remember that I took pledge in the OP. LOL
I am currently stressed about this too. Even before I was engaged I knew that you should RSVP right away. It’s simply polite. I just wish people would tell me, it’s been a month and I’ve only had 3 RSVP’s :/
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