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I wouldn't say it's horrible. But in the United States at least, it's good etiquette. I can't say I know what's considered appropriate in Seville.
Think of the wedding invitations you've received. If the response card had a stamp, then I think you should include one, too.
I'm also unsure about the proper etiquette in Spain. However, here's my rationale for attaching postage: A lot of my friends pay their bills online and have automatic transfers set up to pay rent. They simply don't have stamps at home, let alone postcard postage (we're doing postcards to save money). If I don't include a stamp, it will almost certainly delay the return of the cards, perhaps indefinitely. I'd rather attach postage than have to worry about calling 90% of my guest list 5 days past the RSVP deadline.
I don't think it's horrible... but the thing is, it's hard enough to get people to send back the card WITH a stamp. Without a stamp, people may put it off or not send it at all. So, I'm definitely attaching one!
It isn't the money. It's just that I live overseas and to get poststamps for the USA will be tough! Especially considering I dunno how much it'll cost to send the RSVP!
Is there someone in the states that could collect the RSVPS for you or could you offer an online option?
Caitlin,
Are you getting the RSVP cards returned to you overseas, or are they going to someone else (like a family member) for collecting in the US (your wedding is in New York, right?) Are you sending your US invitations from overseas?
I live in England, but our wedding was in the US, and most of our guests were from the US. What I did was order stamps from the USPS to be shipped to my mother (enough for the invitation, response cards, and thank you notes). I had a sample invitation sent to her beforehand, so she took it to the Post Office on one of her trips, to be weighed so I knew what stamps to order. The US invitations were stamped and sent from the US-- it would've been a lot more expensive to send each one from here. Is there anyone on the US side who can help you?
Also, the response cards came back to my mother, and she collected them all and emailed me the accepts/declines. I also had a RSVP online feature on our website-- about 25% of the guests used this instead of mailing their card.
While I was in the US for the wedding, I picked up the remaining postage, which I had ordered for my thank you notes. I wrote all of them back in England, and addressed and stamped them, then put them all combined in a huge padded envelope and sent to my sister in the US. She then put all the individual stamped cards into the mailbox for me. Saved me a bunch of money-- around 7 pounds for the whole pack, rather than 90 pence each if I had sent each individual note from the UK.
Yes i like that idea - could you use someone in the US as an RSVP collector? they could email you the tally!
Outside North America, postcards cost the same as a regular letter, so $0.98 each. You'll need to get the stamps in the US (you can probably order them online).
http://www.usps.com/prices/first-class-mail-international-prices.htm
I would say... online might honestly be easiest for you, unless you've got a LOT of people who you think won't be tech-friendly.
We used the online RSVP on our mywedding.com website, and it worked out perfectly. When my mother emailed me about a mailed RSVP card, I would actually RSVP for the people on my website, just so I had an easy running tally.
Thanks for your suggestions. I'll probably have to have someone buy me stamps and send them to me. To send the invitations I'll send a package to someone in the USA to send out...I think...unless my fiance thinks that it's a bad idea...I'll see...
This is what I thought when I sent my invitations out. I'll sent it to old fashioned people. "older folks" I didn't give a stamp to close friends or people who I regularly have access to either email, text, or fb. I was thinking why waste a stamp when there are other free ways to respond. Also, a lot of my guests do go on the internet often. I didn't think it would be a big deal.
I also had my home number, email address and website. I figure people would text me.
So of the 100 invitations that I was sending, about 35 of them did not have stamps.
Want to know what everyone did? (I had 130 guests.) All of them mailed back except 1 person who used the website and another person texted me. I was very suprised how many could have picked up the phone or could have emailed me or could have told me on fb.
I actually felt bad that I didn't give everyone a stamp. If I could do it again, I would have given them a stamp. But I would affix it to the envelope. I would leave the backing on it, so if they decide to use the website or call me; they could use the stamp for another letter.
Oh, try to get forever stamps! Just in case the postage goes up again. I used forever stamps but my one friend for her wedding didn't and she was missing a bunch of reply cards.
Thanks for the advice! I am gonna research it now. I just don't know if it will cost extra postage or not and I can't find out here....I'm gonna do some research. They are square though if that helps. I'll post a pic in case anyone had experience with a similar one and know what the postage will cost?
The envelope is 6 3/8" x 6 3/8"
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The site says this "• Check with your post office before mailing as extra postage is required."
OK I am braindead. I should worry about the cost of the RSVP NOT the invitation...that was the inquiry! Ugh! Anyway, the RSVPs are pretty small, so they won't require extra postage!
"Prices for First-Class Mail, Standard Mail, Parcel Post and other mailing services products will not change in 2010, with the cost of a First-Class Mail stamp remaining at 44 cents." Is posted at the usps site.
Damn the sites won't send postage stamps internationally. My father would have to purchase them and send them to me. And having them put the stamps on my RSVPs for me and put them in the invitation and ship them out is not an option.
Well I am going to have my father buy stamps for me and send them to me in dthe end. It's a nice gesture and I'll do what yrret107did and just give stamps to the people who will rsvp that way.
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I was wondering how many people are gonna have the RSVP with the stamp already attached? Is it that horrible to not attach the postage stamp??