Post # 1
Our wedding is in 26 days and our deadline for the RSVP responses was the 15th. We are keeping it adult and family/friends only with the exception of the kids in the wedding. So far we’ve had 4 people send back their RSVP with more than were invited. The invitations cleary said “Mr. and Mrs so and so” or “Ms. so and so”. One of them was addressed to Mr and Mrs and came back with 9 under the number attending. Seriously? 9! Who adds 7 to the RSVP!
We’ve had about 3 people add dates who were not given dates and today got one where only one person was invited (not very close with anymore, but friend of the family) and it said 4 on it.
Our venue holds 400 and were at about 300–but we don’t want to pay for that many. We set a limit at about 300 so the room isn’t crowded and we are on a budget.
What do we do about these people? There is no room for extras in what we planned. Thanks!
Post # 3
Call them up and say “Due to the maximum capacity for our venue we are only able to accomodate the guests the who were named on the invitations. Unfortunately, there is not enough room for (feel free to list the names of the uninvited). I understand that this might mean you are no longer able to attend. With this in mind, is your RSVP for (insert names of invited) still a yes?”
ETA: None of the plus ones are spouses right? (As in someone’s husband, wife, fiance, live in boyfriend or live in girlfriend.) Couples should be invited as a unit, so the additional guests might be people who you did not know were in serious relationships. If possible, I would make room for those guests (husbands, wives, fiances, live in boyfriends or live in girlfriends.)
Post # 4
It’s going to be an awkward phone call, but you would think that people would know by now, the people whose names are on the invitation are the people invited and no one else! Your going to have to school these ingrates, politely….and some of them might get a little miffed, but if they wanna play the +7 game, just let them now they’ll be splitting two plates of food 😉
Post # 5
I agree with @asscherlover: and @Nona99:. You will need to call the guests and clarify who is invited and politely, but firmly, explain that you simply are unable to accommodate any extra guests.
Post # 6
Well we called the one person and the 3 extras were her two sons and one if their new girlfriends. Immediately they said “well I hope you can understand why I will not be attending now”. Their loss! People just cant assume they can invite whoever they want. Weddings are expensive! We would love to have everyone, but its just not realistic. Thanks all!
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Post # 8
WTF 7?? Wo the heck are they bringing? Yah, definitely call and tell these people. It will be awkward but they are the ones in the wrong for blatantly ignoring the invited names.