Post # 1
My fiance and I have a very limited # of seats available for the reception. We had a hard time making the guest list. We have not invited any work friends because of this. We specifically wrote the name(s) on the envelope on the STD’s and Invitation’s of who exactly is invited. I just received a text message from one of my college roommates saying “She just received the invitation. And are we bringing guests, couldn’t tell from the invite.” (I do not know who We is refering.) What is the most tactful response. Glad you received the invite. Unfortunately seating is very limited, sorry no guest…..? (She is the only college roommate (of 5) who does not have a boyfriend, husband or fiance.)
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I would stress exactly what you’ve said here: seating is very limited for you wedding, and unfortunately, you couldn’t give everyone the option of bringing a plus one. She should definitely understand then. This is how my Fiance and I have handled requests for plus ones, though we’ve also added that we’ll see how many people are actually coming after the RSVPs are in and give out some extra plus ones then, if we’re able.
Post # 4
i think you did the right thing. Our wedding will be limited as well and not everyone can get a plus one… it shouldn’t offend anyone if they understand the situation.
Post # 5
who is the “she” the text is refering to? someone you sent the invitation to? or is someone else talkign about someone else’s invitation that she saw over her shoulder?
either way, I wouldn’t overthink it or worry about how to explain it. Just write back and say, “sorry, due to space/budget restraints, unless the invitation says “and guest,” then only the person whose name is on it is invited!”
Post # 6
She is the person who received it, sorry for the confusion!
Post # 7
I would keep the tone positive, and avoid saying anything like “No Guests” or “Sorry”. Those imply that guests bringing along escorts and acquaintances is conceivable, and to me, it isn’t.
I’d text something like: “I am sending each guest his or her own personal invitation. Whom were you wondering about? Let me know the name, and I’ll tell you whether they’re on the guest list or not.”
Post # 8
I think that what you wrote in your original post is fine! It sounds fine just to explain that seating is limited, so you unfortunately were unable to grant everyone a +1.