RSVP Question!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3338 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Pay it. I rarely have stamps lying around. You may have more trouble getting them back if you don’t pay them.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@hollyberry4:  Agreed.  You’re much less likely to get them back if you don’t pre-stamp them 🙁 It’s not tooo huge of an expense unless you are having a HUGE wedding.

Post # 5
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@jb20:  I think it’s the polite thing to do, plust like PP stated, you might have trouble getting your guests to send them in!

Post # 6
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

You want them to send it back, you should pay.

I would honestly think it was very cheap to get one without a .63 stamp on it.  Even if you are sending out 250 individual invites it will be less then 170.  Not the place to cut costs, IMO.

 

Post # 7
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673 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it would be more generous to include them, and it will be easier for you to get them back.

Post # 8
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

It’ll make it that much harder to get them back if people need to stamp it themselves. I never have stamps.

Post # 9
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Seriously rude not to send them pre stamped!! I wouldnt return one that wasnt already stamped and I certianly did not expect my guests to.

Post # 10
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you can’t afford the stamps, do online RSVP! I would defintiely be annoyed if I got an RSVP card in the mail and it wasn’t stamped.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jb20:  I did get an RSVP without a stamp and thought it was very cheap/rude of them not to include the stamp.  As the groom was one of my good friends, I knew that they were trying to cut costs, and they did give the option of online RSVP.  The lack of stamp definitely prompted me to use the online RSVP when I was miffed about the lack of stamp on the paper RSVP.

SO, my advice is – if you are offering online RSVP, you can leave the stamp off of the paper RSVP if you want to prompt people to use the online RSVP.  But don’t expect that they will be thrilled about it.  It seems very silly, I’ll admit, but I was not very pleased.

Now that I’m on the other side, I’m not pleased looking at the price of postage when it seems like such a frivolous expenditure, but I will pay it, because most of the wedding is completely frivolous and if you aren’t okay with that, then maybe a big wedding isn’t the right choice.

Post # 12
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2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Pay for the postage!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Pay for them!  If you really don’t want to, may I suggest creating a wedding website in which you can have your guests RSVP directly on the website.  However, this means you may run into some guests who don’t have interent access (or don’t like the online RSVP idea).  My friend recently  did this.

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