RSVP question

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

@kb7:  That is how we sent out our RSVP cards and people were really good about writing in their names. (We had them all numbered on the back too in case any were illegible, but it turned out people were great). However, we knew in advance the names of everyones +1. Do you have a lot of singles bringing +1’s?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kb7:  I included __ seat(s) are reserved and hand wrote thE number for each invite, this way there was no question on how many people were invited

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Mine are addressed like this, along with the sentence “ __ seat(s) are reserved with your acceptance of the invitation”. I just received an RSVP in the mail yesterday… whoever sent it checked accepts with pleasure and did not write their name on the card. I have no idea who it’s from. :-/

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

@Diamond84:  Oh no! Was there any identifying information on the envelope it came in?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Diamond84:  oh no!! I’ve heard stories of that happening so I quickly decided to add discrete numbers to the back of each card that corresponds to my guest list so I will now who it’s from if they forget to write names. Good luck! Hopefully, when you get more back you can narrow down who that might be from. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We are doing the “_______ seats have been reserved in your honor” line and then I’m writing in the invited names on each one, and under “accepts with pleasure” we are doing a “# attending” line.  We chose postcard RSVPs so numbering them on the back isn’t really an option anymore.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@mrswhitemtn:  Nope, nothin! 🙁

@Soon2BeMrsS:  Ugh, you know what’s really annoying? I did the number thing. I numbered every RSVP. Problem is, after I did this, at some point I edited the guest list, deleting people, adding people, COMPLETELY FORGETTING about the fact that each name in the spreadsheet had a corresponding number. It threw all the numbers off! I have no clue(!) what I did to edit the list, but from a quarter of the way down, my numbers do not match up with the name initially assigned to that person. I literally just spent an hour downstairs looking at all the RSVP’s (again) I have in hopes of trying to figure out where I either deleted or added a name or names, an I can’t get it. It’s driving me INSANE. And I have 170 guests I’m tring to keep track of. Foot in Mouth

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Customs House Resturant Geelong

This is how I did my RSVP cards. I DIY my invites so it was easy to personalise. It was very clear who was being invited. Plus it made it alot easier when checking off the guest list responses.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@LeahTron: i like that for a less formal affair…I wonder if guests know they cannot transfer the invite to other people in case one is a Yes and another guest is No

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

After reading so many horror stories and mix ups here on the bee I basically took every precaution.  Mine read somthing like this:

“__ seats have been reserved in your honor

Names(s)_____________________

___Will Attend

___ Will not attend”

 

I also numbered the back, and on the inner envelope wrote clearly who was invited like “Mr. John Smith and Guest” or “Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Smith”.  I thought have a names line instead of just M would make it super clear.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Customs House Resturant Geelong

@CurlyCue: I think most people know invitations or plus ones are not transferrable. It would be a bit strange to give someone else your invitation who wasn’t invited. We are having a formal yet intimate wedding (40 guests), with just close family. That particular RSVP was the only one with a guest option which was my Aunty. I have never heard of people giving away their plus ones. That seems really odd and rude to me. Maybe it’s more common with larger weddings, or different etiquette rules within your social group.
My invitation suite. All DIY and designed by me.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kb7:  We changed M________ to Name(s)________

And we did decide to have the “reserved X seats for you” to clarify

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We had a line of the bottom that read:

There are ____ of ____ attending.

We let the guests fill out the first blank, and we hand wrote (or stamped) the number of seats we had reserved for their family, and we made sure to address the invitation to ONLY those guests who would be invited.

So if we were inviting  Mark, Marsha, Mary, and Margaret, but not Margaret’s deadbeet boyfriend Dave, we addressed it as:

Mark, Marsha, Mary, and Margaret Thomas
124 Fictional Street
Invisibletown, NW 90000

and they would fill out:

There are ____ of __4__ guests attending

 

 

god help the first person that scratches out a number and adds their own plus one..
 

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