Post # 1
As some of you already know Im a newbie here and this is my first post. Well, here is my question: I sent my invitations on August 16, 2011 and the RSVP deadline is September 9. I know I still have 2 more weeks for the deadline but I sent 200 invitations and so far only 7 people have reply. To all the brides that already went trough this is this normal? or should I start wondering if they even got the invitation?
Just and FYI Im hispanic and my FH is caucasian and from the RSVP cards I got back 6 are from his side of the family and one is from side. Maybe hispanics don’t RSVP?? uh-oh!
Post # 3
I haven’t sent out my invites yet (bit early, still) but from what I’ve seen, people like to wait ’til the last minute. They’ll get it, put it aside and think “Yeah, I’ll do it later” and forget. (My Fiance is a perfect example).
If you’re still worried, maybe talk to your parents and FI’s parents, ask them what they think. If this is out of the norm, maybe they can start asking some guests if they’ve recieved the invites, since you haven’t received the RSVP’s and the deadline is coming up! That usually gets people into gear.
In the end, after the deadline, it never fails that brides have to start getting a hold of guests to find out what their RSVP is. This is why I’m doing RSVP by email and phone… find it a waste of money on paper and stamps since a good portion never send them back anyway.
Post # 4
I still have a lot of people who need to respond and my date is this saturday. The sad thing is that a lot of people just don’t rsvp anymore. I was going to put on my invite that people could call or email and I thought that would be tacky, but I wish I had.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
Yes, it’s totally normal for people to be late with RSVP-ing. Many wait till the last minute, and unfortunately, many do not RSVP at all. Our deadline was August 15th, and we still haven’t gotten all of our cards back or even heard from everyone who was invited. It’s incredibly frustrating, but sadly, some people just don’t think about how much trouble not RSVP-ing on time (or at all!) causes us brides and grooms. Don’t worry yet, though. A huge surge will probably come in those last few days before your deadline.
Post # 6
Our RSVP date is in 10 days and so far we’ve only heard from about 40 people. We invited 138. I’m planning my snarky facebook post already…something along the lines of ‘If you haven’t responded with your RSVP for the wedding 1. you’re rude. 2. you’re lazy. 3. you’re sitting at the shitty table.’
Post # 7
that seems strange. I had RSVPS flooded back right after I sent them, and now am in a lull – our due date is 9/8. Are you sure they got there?
Post # 8
I am chasing down my RSVP’s now. My deadline was the 15th and I still had 100 people to find out about at that time. Now I am down to 50 and I am not expecting them since they live all over the country.
Post # 9
Thank you ladies! I guess I’ll just wait and maybe have my mom call our family and see if they received the invitation though we hand delivered half of them lol.
Post # 10
Sooooo many of my RSVPs came in at the eleventh hour! It’s normal to worry, but I bet a lot will come in the last week!