(Closed) RSVP [Rant]

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would call up the guests and just say that you were checking in to see if they had sent in an RSVP or not.  You can always blame it on the mail “We’ve been getting a lot of lost RSVPs in the mail! Grr rwar…you coming or not?” 😛

Hubby and I had to do this, it was annoying but at least we got our answers.

Post # 5
7773 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You need to phone the people who haven’t RSVP’d, and get a firm yes or no out of them. Since they have been rude to not respond, it’s not rude of you to phone them.

As for the hotel: you have done all you can and it’s not your problem anymore. Actually I’m surprised that brides block hotel rooms anyway: whenever we’ve travelled, for a wedding or anything else, we organise our own hotel. That’s what adults do, they organise their own accomodation. You’ve already done more than enough. If some of your guests need to find accomodation elsewhere now, that’s not your problem.

Post # 6
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

same thing happened with the block of hotel rooms i reserved. hardly anyone took advantage of them.

and definitely call the people who haven’t responded. i had, like, 80 people who hadn’t responded when i hit my deadline, so we started calling/e-mailing people right away. it’s a week and a half past my deadline, and there are still people who haven’t responded despite our nagging. what makes it more frustrating is that most of them are people who know better- they’ve dealt with the stress of planning a wedding, they know how crucial it is that we get a headcount- they just “haven’t gotten around to it.” or they say, “i need to send the card? isn’t it enough that i already told you i’ll be there?” um, why would we include an rsvp card if we didn’t want it back?

if people show up without rsvp-ing they’ll sit at the “riff raff table” way in the back, haha

Post # 8
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mnp:  I’ll be facing this shortly myself and it will be annoying!  If you’ve already called once to say “Hey, just checking in, have you sent your RSVP yet?” and got no reply, I’d call again but this time say, “Hey there, just letting you know that since I haven’t heard back from you we’re going to assume you unfortunately can’t make it.”

It is shocking to me that adults can’t have the decency to rsvp in a timely fashion.  It’s not that hard, people.  And yes….I will make the requisite calls, once.  After that, I’ll make calls saying that I assume that they aren’t coming.  And then take them off the seating chart. No riff raff table for me.  GRRRR.

Post # 10
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Get in touch with the stragglers.  A week after our RSVP deadline, I had Fiance, FI’s mom, my mom, and myself calling all non-RSVPers.  We got all the info we needed within a couple days.  Also, if there are specific people that you know will need hotel rooms but haven’t booked, I’d follow up with them and let them know the hotel may sell out so it’s best to go ahead and book.

Post # 11
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we are in the same boat.   Our deadliine for RSVP’s is September 2nd, and i already sent reminders out last week, still waiting on a bunch of RSVPs from people i’m pretty sure wouldn’t miss it, but what gives???  we are going in to meet with our coordinator on the 5th with only the rsvps we have by then.   i don’t get it…. they’ve had plenty of time to rsvp and i sent a reminder and still nothing.   *sigh* it’s kinda frusterating right now because we need to have our seating plan done when we go in for the meeting and i don’t want to be stuck scrambling at the end to find room for those people who couldn’t respond on time.

Post # 12
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@paula1248:  People block hotel rooms to negotiate a lower price for their guests, and also to set aside rooms (in some areas hotels book up very quickly).  It’s a courtesy to your guests – not necessary, but it’s a nice thing to do.

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