Post # 1
Yesterday Future Father-In-Law sent Fiance and I an email that FI’s aunt lost her invite and would let us know via email about food choice. Fine. I realized that her 20 year old son who lives at home got his own invite and they must have lost that too which I find a little ridiculous. Today we get the email from her which lists all of her four kids. Not a problem, we invited them. I was just surprised as they all received their own invites at their homes. All of her kids said no because they’re going on a trip. I just don’t get why these adults couldn’t RSVP on their own. I’m probably overreacting but I’m just sick of all the RSVP troubles we have been having. TBH I should just be happy that she at least bothered to let us know they wouldn’t be there so we don’t have to track them down. But seriously what is so hard about popping a pre addressed envelope with a stamp in the mail?
Post # 3
@MrsBeck: Totally with you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I agree! I had people sending me text messages to RSVP, and I’m like, “Just put the damn envelope back in the mail!” I put a stamp and I addressed it… Urgh! It’s so frustrating.
Post # 5
I was putting invites together yesterday at FMIL’s house, and she told me not to bother stamping hers or a few family members because they’re going to be in town next weekend and they can just pick them up. I told her that regardless, the RSVP card MUST be returned to me so that a) the RSVP stamp doesn’t get wasted, b) I like getting mail, and c) I need to have a physical answer if I need it. I told Fiance that if he gets texts/Facebook/calls/emails/etc. with responses, to repeat ad nauseum that they NEED to send the card back.
I addressed and stamped our RSVP envelopes, and there are only three things to fill out (name, number coming, and checking yes or no)!
Post # 6
Thanks bees! I know I’m more stressed than usual so I’m glad that others agree!
I just love having the actual card- it makes it so much easier. I also am just annoyed that we wasted stamps and paper.
Post # 7
@MrsBeck: That’s my beef. Like…I’m so glad these goofs are wasting my logo zazzle stamps!
Post # 8
so with you on RSVP frustrations. especially with older relatives, this CAN’T be the first wedding you’ve been to! you get an invitation, it tells you how to RSVP, you do it.
I had the opposite situation. as random luck would have it, my parents were moving house at the same time as my fiancé and I in the months leading up to the wedding. we didnt want any RSVPs getting lost with everyone changing addresses so we had online RSVPs. we had one family who hadn’t got back to us and when my mum called to check if they were coming, her friend told her “I realise your daughter doesn’t know this, but wedding invitations should come with an RSVP card to return by mail. she didnt provide their address so I had to make my own card and send it to your address” gahhhh there was a reason we couldn’t have postal RSVPs! their card eventually got to my parents place through mail forwarding but it was pretty late. apparently my husbands grandma made a similar comment to my Mother-In-Law.
i know everyone has their own ideas about how things should be done, but whether its by post, email, website, phone, whatever… just do what the couple asked you to do in the invitation!
we also got a few gifts after spreading the word that we really didn’t need anything, I know it’s totally ungrateful to be annoyed about a gift but think about it… we live in a different country, we are going in our honeymoon… we don’t have room in our backpacks to cart a china tea set around asia! of course it’s the thought that counts, and the gifts were lovely, but if its the thought that counts… maybe think about the couple’s situation? now my mum has a bunch of wedding presents sitting in their house waiting for whenever we move back home.
if a couple seems to be doing things a bit differently, there’s usually a reason for it!
Post # 9
Oh we had this happen with so many guests…it’s beyond frustrating!!
We made cute mad lib RSVPs and really wanted people to send them back so we could enjoy reading them and to keep them as momentos. SO many people ‘lost’ it or never sent it back and we had to track them down. Then, when we track them down they just told us yes or no and didn’t bother sending it back.
One couple is coming but hasn’t sent the RSVP back after a few requests. Kinda need to know what dinner option they want….ugh!