Post # 1
The RSVP due date is tomorrow. The only ones procrastinating are co-workers. Since my FI is a VP, we invited the whole team that works under him (not the whole company but immediate team which consists of 12 people). One girl is new and I am not particularly fond of her becasue she seams a bit stock up.
I have sent a gentle reminder letting people know that Friday is the deadline (they had a month). I didn’t get much reply’s, except for maybe 3 or so.
I asked my FI to ask also when he has the chance. He asked her and her answer was: I was gonna go but now i am undecided.
WTH ? You either go or you don’t. It’s simple. Why drag your feet. I couldn’t care less if you come so what the crap does that mean ? Just give us a NO and we can cross you off our list. Funny thing is that she is newly married herself, obviously her parents took care of the invites cuz she would somehow know how annoying it is to wait.
Geez it’s like pulling teeth. I really don’t understand why people make it so difficult and drag it on to the last minute.
Also one other guy said that he can’t give me an answer because his life changes every day and he has no clue what he can attend or not 5 weeks from now. OK, well my caterer needs to know so how do i deal with that person!
So if tomorrow comes, am I allowed to just assume that those people are not comming ?
Post # 3
Ugh, I have a few people like that too. I would just say that you had to give your caterer a headcount, and that unfortunately since they were unsure, you had to mark them as a ‘no’. It’s better than paying for people who may or may not show up.
I’m ready to post a tutorial on Facebook about how to mark an RSVP card, put it in the SASE and stick it in a mailbox. It’s so annoying waiting on people!
My RSVP deadline is today and I’m still missing a bunch of RSVP’s from distant relatives and friends. Let the phone calls begin! *grumble*
Post # 4
@thatredheadedbride: I wish I was missing RSVP’s from people that live far away or don’t work with me. But co-workers that i see everyday ??? (I work here too)
Damn, you just got my email yesterday and your are walking around like you didn’t get one, no response etc!! WTF?
Post # 5
@Lulume: I guess I would ask why you need to know now when your wedding is still over a month away? And it is not very polite to remind people before the deadline.
Give it until after the deadline and then be firm and let people know if they cannot commit that you will have to mark them down as a decline.
Post # 6
@andielovesj: I was contamplating and reasearched online that it is very acceptable to gently remind people about the deadline. My reminder was very gentle and friendly so that is not the issue.
We have a meeting with the caterer in a week and I need to give him the seating arrangement and head count and final payment at that time too. That is why i need to know now and give myself enough time to figure out all the stuff needed.
Post # 7
@Lulume: Wow, that’s pretty rude! I wonder if some coworkers have to say ‘no’, but are afraid to do so because it’s for a work colleague. Maybe a gentle reminder of the deadline, with a line about understanding if people can’t make it, would help get more of those RSVP’s back.
Post # 8
@Lulume: Unfortunately if you needed to know earlier then you should have set the date earlier. What was the justification on asking guests to reply before the deadline that you set?
Anyways, what is done is done. Have a great wedding.
Post # 9
@andielovesj: I didn’t ask them to reply before the deadline. The deadline is tomorrow and I am fine with getting an answer tomorrow. It’s just that those two seam like they won’t know tomorrow still.
My reminder was just letting them know that the deadline is approaching. I didn’t want to remind poeple on Friday becasue i figured to give them couple of days before the deadline to go home, talk to their SO’s etc….
My original app with caterer was also suppose to be at the end of September. However he emailed me a week ago letting me know that he will be away at that time and therefore needs to meet 2 weeks before.
Post # 10
Ppl just don’t care whether u need to know or not. I even had recent brides who JUST got done complaining about this very thing not send their cards back to me. Like, not at all, not even after the reminder. Ppl just do not care, they don’t want to go or can’t go and don’t want to admit it. They just can’t be bothered to even make a checkmark and write their own name on the damn thing and walk to their own mailbox. sad really, how ppl do their business.
Post # 11
Honestly, I would have been annoyed to get a reminder email before the deadline. You should have waited until after before contacting anyone. As for the ones who just don’t know — you’ll have to count them as attending because it would be incredibly rude to not include them and have them show up without a seat or a meal!
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
My RSVP date was a week ago, and I’m still missing 1/3 of my replies… The RSVP is not optional, people!