RSVP RANT

posted 3 years ago in October 2013
Post # 3
Member
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh, I have a few people like that too.  I would just say that you had to give your caterer a headcount, and that unfortunately since they were unsure, you had to mark them as a ‘no’.   It’s better than paying for people who may or may not show up.

I’m ready to post a tutorial on Facebook about how to mark an RSVP card, put it in the SASE and stick it in a mailbox.  It’s so annoying waiting on people!

My RSVP deadline is today and I’m still missing a bunch of RSVP’s from distant relatives and friends.  Let the phone calls begin!  *grumble*

Post # 5
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

@Lulume:  I guess I would ask why you need to know now when your wedding is still over a month away?  And it is not very polite to remind people before the deadline.

Give it until after the deadline and then be firm and let people know if they cannot commit that you will have to mark them down as a decline.

Post # 7
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791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Lulume:  Wow, that’s pretty rude!  I wonder if some coworkers have to say ‘no’, but are afraid to do so because it’s for a work colleague.  Maybe a gentle reminder of the deadline, with a line about understanding if people can’t make it, would help get more of those RSVP’s back.

 

Post # 8
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

@Lulume:  Unfortunately if you needed to know earlier then you should have set the date earlier.  What was the justification on asking guests to reply before the deadline that you set?

Anyways, what is done is done.  Have a great wedding.

Post # 10
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2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ppl just don’t care whether u need to know or not. I even had recent brides who JUST got done complaining about this very thing not send their cards back to me. Like, not at all, not even after the reminder. Ppl just do not care, they don’t want to go or can’t go and don’t want to admit it. They just can’t be bothered to even make a checkmark and write their own name on the damn thing and walk to their own mailbox. sad really, how ppl do their business. 

Post # 11
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11722 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I would have been annoyed to get a reminder email before the deadline.  You should have waited until after before contacting anyone.  As for the ones who just don’t know — you’ll have to count them as attending because it would be incredibly rude to not include them and have them show up without a seat or a meal!

 

Post # 12
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1640 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

My RSVP date was a week ago, and I’m still missing 1/3 of my replies…   The RSVP is not optional, people!

 

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