RSVP rant!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

tell him that he is not in a long term relationship and therefore was not invited with a date so he cannot bring one.

Post # 4
2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

No need to play the bitch card.  Just tell him the venue is small and there isn’t room for him to bring a date.  Simple as that.  Boil it down to logistics.

If he doesn’t like that, he might not come, but…tough shit, I say.

Post # 5
10876 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@knitB4zod:  You need — or preferrably, your FI needs — politely to explain to this gentleman that you simply are unable to accommodate any uninvited guests but that you are very much looking forward to seeing him.

Post # 6
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I always think if someone is in the wedding party they should get to bring a date. I don’t know if this guy is or isn’t because you didn’t clarify, but honestly I would just tell him he can’t bring one. You don’t have to be rude about it, but be stern and tell him since he is not in a LTR with her, he cannot bring a date. If he proceeds to fight it further THEN I would pull out the bitch card (but that’s because I hate to repeat myself) and would probably tell him if he plans on bringing her he has the ok to miss the wedding and go to his big party instead.


Post # 7
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

tell him to go to his party instead if thats all he wanted to do is to score a meal and drink ticket on you guys with a +1

its not just a party free for all, its a WEDDING

Post # 8
3226 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Tell him you cannot offer him a date due to space and that if he brings one she will not have a seat or a meal.

Post # 9
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think your guy needs to grow a pair and tell his friend he can’t bring a random date. 

Post # 11
42076 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

FI missed the opportunity to remind him that he was not given a plus one when he called. What DID FI say to him when he made that statement?

Post # 12
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would explain to him the limits, but if there are any cancellations or those that respond no, you will add her to the list…

Trust me, there will be people who won’t rSVP and show up anyway and there will be those who do and don’t show up…

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