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Our wedding is Sept. 3. We're doing our RSVP for the end of July just becuase I know that people tend to send RSVPs late.
I say July 23rd just to give yourself some wiggle room (and to invite the "B" listers) ;)
You should send the wedding invites out 6-8 weeks in advance, ask the reply by date for 3 weeks after they receive them. People dont need a lot of time to reply. They pretty much know right away if they can come or not.
I set mine for five weeks before the wedding because our venue wants the final headcount three weeks prior so that gives me two weeks to track down anyone who doesn't reply. I want to give myself plenty of time because I know I'll have enough stuff to stress over in the month leading up to the wedding. If you're curious, I plan on sending my invites the first week of August, so just about a month before the reply by date and a little over two months before the wedding.
We did Aug 1 for our Sept 4 wedding. It gave us enough time to track down the non-responders (invites were sent July 2) and work up the seating chart.
My wedding is August 13th, and I set my RSVP date to July 15...just because I know there will be a few stragglers that I'll have to hunt down.
So maybe July 20th?
I put mine for July 31, but I also sent them out two weeks ago.
And I want to have all the stragglers tracked down by August as I have to give a final count two weeks prior AND we will be leaving to go to our wedding one week before the date.
I sent my invites 8 weeks out and put an RSVP date for 4 weeks later. I need to provide final head count to my venue and caterer 2 weeks before the wedding so that give me an extra 2 weeks to track down any stragglers.
The ideal rsvp date would be july 29th, but since you may end up having to chase a few rsvps, I would suggest putting down july 22nd
According to traditional ettiquette, your invitations would be sent out 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding date. Your RSVP date should be based on when your caterer needs final numbers, but really shouldn't be more than 3-4 weeks before your wedding. So, your RSVP date should be somewhere between July 29- August 13.
If people need to travel to attend your wedding (which I'm guessing since you live in NYC and the wedding is in VT) you should really send them out earlier than the typical 6-8 weeks. I'd say at least 3 months.
I sent out mine April 13th for my July 10th wedding, and now I already have all my RSVPs back!
traditionally its 4 weeks prior. more time than that is unnecessary since it gives you plenty of time to call the slackers and get your count to your catering co, which is 10 business days prior
Mine is Oct 22, and RSVP is Sept 15. Just because I know there's going to be stragglers, and a lot of my DYI is dependant on guest count (I'm not making a single thing more than I have to, thankyouverymuch).
So....last week of July, first week of August? When does your caterer need your final numbers by? When are you sending them out (aka how much time are you *actually* giving them to reply?)
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The wedding is Aug 27th. What should the reply by date be? Not sure how thats meant to work. Thanks!