Post # 1
I come to you in distress. I’m just about hyperventilating because I don’t know what to do!
My invitations were mailed 2 weeks ago (85 in total). I know at least 10 people who put their RSVP cards in the mail 7 days ago. I haven’t received one yet. Normally, it’s a 3-day turnaround for mail from this group of people. I live in an apartment, but I’ve received plenty of other mail.
I went to my local USPS and they blew me off. “I’m sure they didn’t actually mail their reply cards yet. Just keep waiting.” WTF.
So, am I overreacting? Or is there something I can do to track down these envelopes? They are small cards inside envelopes with address labels on the front. The postage is forever stamps. The only thing that may be off is a light purple monogram over the address label. Perhaps that is slowing down the sorting of the letters (but that seems a stretch).
Post # 3
Are you close with any of these people? can you have them mail you something else and see if you get it?
Post # 4
@kerensa: One of them is my Matron of Honor. She’s super pissed :). I just got a few letters with checks from guests in the mail this week, so I know things are getting to me. I just don’t get what’s happening with the RSVPS.
Post # 5
What size is the envelope? If it’s tiny maybe it’s not going through the post office machines? That’s my only guess.
Post # 6
They’re pretty itty…like 2.5 by 2.5. Is there a way to retrieve them if they get stuck? My poor RSVP cards.
Post # 7
I’ve noticed mail is taking one additional day than normal….
Do you have and extra one you can mail yourself today?
Post # 8
Before you printed them up, did you check to see whether they fit within postal regulations? I think there is such a thing as “too small to mail,” and that might be it … or they could just be falling to the bottom of the mail bags. 2.5″x2.5″ is pretty tiny.
Yup, just checked: the USPS has a minimum letter size of 3.5″ x5″. Any way you can contact your invitees and ask them to R.s.v.p. another way?
Post # 9
I’d have your Maid/Matron of Honor mail you a postccard or something, just to check.
Post # 10
This is a little after the fact, but here is a link to the postal regulations for mailing sizes. http://postcalc.usps.com/PopUps/Letter.htm. Had you checked the size with the post office? According to this, the envelope can’t be any smaller than 3.5″ x 5″…that might be your issue if they are in fact 2.5″ envelopes.
If they are lost and don’t meet the requirments, sorry this happened! Not sure how big your guest list is, but maybe you can alert everyone to RSVP another way, such as online if you have a wedding site setup.
Post # 11
What’s to stress about? Why not just call those whose RSVP’s you haven’t received?
If the invitations have already been sent out, there’s not much you can do to change that right?
I plan on calling everyone who hasn’t sent, or we haven’t received, their RSVP’s
I could be wrong though… that my thinking?
Post # 12
Wow, I definitely mis-estimated. Just measured the envelope and it is in fact 3.5 x 5.
@superh2ogirl: I will eventually have to call around. Our guestlist is almost 300, so it’s really a pain. Also, my former bosses from my old job are invited. It just feels awkward to call them, although I’d love for them to come. And it’s sad to not even get one RSVP in the mail 🙁
Post # 13
@drosen81: do you have an RSVP card you can take the post office and ask if they see any problems with it?? If they say no, then mail one to yourself and see what happens….
Post # 14
@oracle: I actually already brought one! The lady didn’t see a problem, but she was also zero help with suggestions. I’ll probably mail myself one and hope for the best. Too bad I can’t track it without changing its classification.
Post # 15
Good luck! USPS really sucks at times…they lost at least 7 of my invitations. I mailed them about 2.5 months ago, and one of them JUST came back to my parents’ house YESTERDAY. There’s nothing wrong with it, either…and where the heck was it for two and a half months? Uuuuuuggggghhhhh the post office suuuuuuucks.
but hopefully you’ll see them start to turn up in a few days!
Post # 16
Another thought: Check with your neighbors! We got maybe 1 RSVP a week, so I finally asked some of my neighbors, as I live in apartments too. I walked away with about 20 RSVPs they just had sitting in their junk mail bins. It’s unfortunate, but if people get mail that’s not theirs, they usually either throw it out or just put it in a junk mail pile. I went through the run around with the post office too, filing 2 complaints…mail has been making it into my box more often since then.