Post # 1
Hi – for brides who will be the recipient of the RSVP cards, are you including just your first name and last name? Or including Miss, Ms., Doctor? The invitations are formal, but I don’t know if I should just go with Ms. for my return address (even though I am a M.D.)? For our actual invitations no titles were used, just my first, middle, and last names (and the groom the same) so as to not come off pretentious. So here are my options: 1. Bonbon Sparkles 2. Ms. Bonbon Sparkles 3. Doctor Bonbon Sparkles 4. Bonbon Sparkles, M.D. Thanks Bees!
Post # 2
I’d go with Dr. Bonbon Sparkles. I don’t finish my doctorate up until June of next year – but you can be sure as heck I’ll be using those little letters allllll the time. I certainly have earned them.
(Ps – poor FI isn’t as excited that our names will be Dr. & Mr. Lastname, but I guess I can let people address us as Mr. & Dr., I can still let him be announced first)
Post # 3
I really don’t think any of your guests will notice or mind. But if you haven’t used them on your invites I don’t think it is necessary for the return addresses? For what it’s worth I didn’t use any title just our names for return addresses. I handwrote them so I was keen to avoid any extra work that I possibly could by that point. Of all your options the one I definitely wouldn’t use is the MD one at the end of your name. Dr is fine if you want but it’s not like people with other degrees put Lollybags, LLB or Lollybags, Esquire (although that tradition should totally come back!) on personal correspondence.
Post # 4
I’m all abt simplicity, so I vote no title!
Post # 5
No title. I don’t think it’s necessary to state that you’re an MD in regards to a wedding, guests are not going there to celebrate your education, they’re going to celebrate you & your love. So unless you ask your friends to call you “Doctor Firstname Lastname” socially, leave it out.
Post # 6
I don’t think titles are needed at all. Everyone has a first and last name, and really that’s enough for mail purposes.
Post # 7
It all depend on you.If you want to go with Dr., just go with it.This is not a big issue.
Post # 8
On a return address label, a name is not even needed at all, just the address. Problem solved.
Post # 9
No “Dr.” title. “Ms.” or just your name. Yes, it’s your formal name….but this is a highly personal event, not a professional one and I think using the “Dr” title outside of a professional arena comes off as stiff, cool and yes, pretentious.
Post # 10
bonbonsparklesMD: I am starting a Phd soon and in spite of that, I would go with no title. I know both Phds and Mds wotk hard for them but its your family and friends. They know you are a doctor and unless they keep addressing you as Doctor in normal conversation, I wouldnt do it. My aunt has had a Phd my entire life, I have never addressed her with doctor even on her wedding invitation, we used first name last name. None got titles at all, it is such a personal event that it isn’t necessary
Post # 12
bonbonsparklesMD: If you are a doctor why would you ever leave off your Dr? That’s crazy girl, own it!
Either go with no titles at all, or use your proper Dr title.
Post # 13
I’m sorry but WHO are these people who voted for “Ms”? I can completely understand no titles (I voted for no titles), but why Ms?
Here is my question to anyone who voted for “Ms” – would you have said the same to a man who was choosing between Dr and Mr?
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Post # 15
BtoR: I am really curious to see how you’ll answer this after 6 years of slaving through graduate school.
I am almost 30 years old. I am not yet married. I have no children. I have spent 10 years post-high school in an academic setting, preparing for my career. Plus another two working full time to get “experience” in the field.
In a few months I will start an internship in which I will work 70 hours a week for an 18k stipend (Yes, for the entire year. Yes, that’s much lower than minimum wage).
I have made significant personal (and social) sacrifices for those letters, not just professional. It reflects commitment to my career over and beyond what most achieve. It is a way of life for me, not a disconnected job.
That being said, I also believe that titles should be used on mail. I write “Mr and Mrs lastname” on the envelope if I’m sending it to my parents – not “mom and dad.” I always use “Ms. Bestfriend” when I send off a postcard.
I am also excited to (for a short time) be a Mrs. – isn’t that what we hang on the back of the chairs to be excited about? I think bonbonsparklesMD: should be rock that title. She earned it. And if her username is any indication, it is part of her identity – even in social company on the internet.